Why be Kind?
It appears to be counter intuitive to extend kindness selflessly, as selfishness, or at least pursuit of self interest is seen as rational. So why be kind?
61-69, M
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impulsive · 31-35, M
There is no reason. Nice guys finish last, niceness will get you nowhere in life I am afraid, it sure as hell won't get you the girl. Well not usually anyways there always exceptions but on average it pays to be an asshole more. This world bends over backwards for a dick. Myself I don't act like a dick but i'm no nice guy either, i'm just me, cynical, witty, harsh me.
sogdianrock · 61-69, M
hi impulsive ·
you seem switched on to life's challenges!
Cynicism worries me but hey each to their own. I fear it sort of closes doors and then says there are no open doors. It is a self fulfilling prophecy I guess. Of course a cynic would say just realism.
I am interested in your view. I think it is actually the zeitgeist. I do not share it because I think kindness is as important as money is in oiling a human society.
Best wishes
:)
you seem switched on to life's challenges!
Cynicism worries me but hey each to their own. I fear it sort of closes doors and then says there are no open doors. It is a self fulfilling prophecy I guess. Of course a cynic would say just realism.
I am interested in your view. I think it is actually the zeitgeist. I do not share it because I think kindness is as important as money is in oiling a human society.
Best wishes
:)
impulsive · 31-35, M
@sogdianrock I used to be a niceguy, i'm naturally a nice person but I think you can be nice and not be what we call a "nice guy" you should check out a book by a psychologist called Robert Glover called "no more mr nice guy" on how people like that aren't actually nice at all but instead passive aggressive insecure weak men.