If Your Partner Wanted To Spice Things Up In The Bedroom, What Would Scare You The Most?

@Miram
But what if they DO know you better than you give them credit for and perhaps you know them equally as well. But because they know every aspect of you when it comes to your sexual relationship with them, perhaps that could be a reason why they might suggest that a third person enter the mix which would yield something new for both of you?

Have you thought of that aspect before?

@Miram I know what you mean but sometimes even we don’t know what we’re prepared to try till faced with it.

@SandWitch

I just said that I don't believe in engaging in meaningless sex with randoms.

And thankfully, neither does my partner.

Meaningful bonding is much passionate and never lacks that sense of novelty. We grow and change and so will our needs and even how we express ourselves, but some principles are bound to be important.

I find that the world is moving towards treating love from the perspective of consumerism..always seeking new things because they get "bored", short fast pleasures , short attention spans and no in depth appreciation and gratitude for their already attained blessings.

I don't want that to pollute my heart. I rather stay free and love my way.

@Miram

You also said "I would feel they don't know me at all if they said that a third person would spice things up".

I was not addressing the second half of your statement, I was addressing the first half which I've quoted above, neither of those two statements having relevance to each other quite frankly.

The original question was, "If Your Partner Wanted To Spice Things Up In The Bedroom, What Would Scare You The Most?"

Of all you've written so far in support of you not believing in engaging in meaningless sex with randoms, you still haven't answered the OP's question.

@SandWitch

Not engaging in random sex is a part of who I am as a person. That is why it is related and why I would not be comfortable with that suggestion from a partner.

I hope you will move on to doing something else less irritating than trying to dictate how I answer a question, and what I should be fine with in my relationship. 👋🏻

@SandWitch 🍿

@StygianKohlrabi I think she needs it..😁

@Primnproper I need 2 for the show 😬👀 my money is on Miram 👊

@StygianKohlrabi You enjoy this too much. You too need to find something else to do. Maybe a third person in your relationship or a bùttplug 😤

@Miram I do have other hobbies. like um watching toenail clipping videos. not familiar with the buttplug play yet. 🤔 let me know when you're teaching a course on it. 👀

@StygianKohlrabi Nostril fetishes are my thing.

@Miram hairy ones?! kinky

@Miram


Well, that being the case that "not engaging in random sex is a part of who I am as a person", then why would you waste your time joining this thread which specifically asked "If Your Partner Wanted To Spice Things Up In The Bedroom, What Would Scare You The Most?", if you weren't emotionally prepared to answer the question?

Do you really think that anyone here gives a damn that not engaging in random sex is a part of who you are as a person? Were you thinking that you could score some points with that revelation about yourself? Why did you feel the need to come on here to announce this irrelevant fact of your life to a bunch of strangers, yet the whole time you've been here ranting, you still haven't answered the OP's question!

Maybe it's time that YOU move on to do something else less irritating than trying to impose the irrelevancy of your meaningless sex life onto those of us who have not solicited that random information from you?

@SandWitch

You are way too annoying, controlling and incredibly strange. Stick to your lane. No one forced you to read my amswers about my own preferences. The OP doesn't seem it have a problem with it or with my presence here, and my personal choices. And it is not up to you how I word myself, what I share or how I behave. Bugger off!

@Miram

@Miram @SandWitch
I think you've both made your points and clearly will not agree so just agree to disagree and let it go.

@Primnproper No worries. I can't see her comment anyways and not interested to.

@Primnproper I’ll be having no part of this discussion 😧

@SW-User Because it is a waste of time to argue about people's life choices.

@Miram Oh yeah and that too, good point 😅

@Miram
Yet, here you still are, two posts after you were told to let it go, still arguing with your ego to be perceived as 'right' by all concerned! You're not right, okay! You still haven't answered the OP's original posted question either!

@SandWitch To be fair she kind of did in her first reply which I did understand. In the past I’ve always been vocal on my own morals and boundaries and if my partner suggested something like that I’d probably think the same. Her views are right to herself which is how they should be, if that’s not right by you that’s fine too. We are all individuals and have our own boundaries, limits and views. It doesn’t mean they all have to be the same. Hers are no more wrong than your own may be. You need to let it go.

@Miram Spot on.
Love you M and your integrity. 💓

@Magenta I agree ☝️ and I don’t quickies 😌
Oh yeah and also, I’m always about the depth, gratitude etc etc 😃