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SW is like any other community, I guess. I try to be somewhat active and make pertinent replies to posts on here. With the exception of very few, I get no response to my reply or a "yep" when every other reply gets an exchange of dialogue . I guess I live on the wrong side of the SW tracks. Oh well. Don't get me wrong, I don't lose any sleep over it. It just makes me wonder when I sign in and see nothing. That being said, enjoy your day.

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swirlie · 31-35, F

I think what substitutes for open dialogue on this website is the unprecedented use of the 'heart' button. Instead of people responding with the same dialogue you offered when answering one of their questions, if they reply to you at all, 99% of the time they will offer a cursory push of their heart button as their formal acknowledgment of what you have posted to THEIR thread.

If I owned this website, the very first modification I would make would be to eliminate the option of sending hearts in place of written dialogue. I would rather nobody respond to my posts at all, than to receive a plethora of goddamn hearts.

Sevendays · M

@swirlie I agree 100%. I want the interaction, not just them letting me know that they saw my post or my reply.

swirlie · 31-35, F

@Sevendays
I remember the early days of EP.

Back then, there was no such thing as pressing a heart button in response to someone's post. But at the same time, back then people were not interacting on EP through the use of a hand-held cellphone connected to this website via the internet.

Back then, people wrote sentences, not one-word answers to posts while driving with one hand and posting on EP with the other while they drove down the highway.

Back then, people did not appear as illiterate buffoons when they responded to someone's post. SW changed all that which is why SW is not at all like EP was!

Sevendays · M

@swirlie There's nothing that I can do to change that but I'll just keep replying and hope for more than a heart.

swirlie · 31-35, F

@Sevendays
I think you also have to ask yourself what it is that you want from our studio audience? For me, I'm a descriptive literary person by nature, so I presume unfairly, that I expect everyone else to provide to me what I usually give to them.

What about you?

Sevendays · M

@swirlie I know that we are all different. I'm more of a get to the point person so that's what I'd like in return. I also know that people have varied abilities when it comes to communication skills. I tend to look past that if they are taking the time to communicate at all.

swirlie · 31-35, F

@Sevendays
Okay, fair enough! The thing is, I never knew that about you and I'm sure you never knew what I said about me! So then, if nobody knows anything about us when they respond, both you and I are setting ourselves up to fail if those people who respond don't say things as we both expect them to be responding to us.

Why do we do that to ourselves?

Sevendays · M

@swirlie It could be similar to the thought of, or lack of thought, self abuse. Haha.

Honestly, the attempt has meaning.

swirlie · 31-35, F

@Sevendays
Do you mean we are self-abusing ourselves? Like sabotaging our own post expectations from others?

Sevendays · M

@swirlie yes. If we set our expectations too high we are destined to fail. I was having a conversation in real life I jokingly said "I used to think all people are good unless I'm proven wrong. Now I think that everyone is an a**hole until they show me they aren't. That carries much less risk of disappointment.".

swirlie · 31-35, F

@Sevendays
Excellent cover-your-ass strategy for winning friends and influencing people!

Sevendays · M

@swirlie I don't really think that but it is an interesting theory.

swirlie · 31-35, F

@Sevendays
I agree! Excellent theory!

Sevendays · M

@swirlie and thanks for a great dialogue.

swirlie · 31-35, F

@Sevendays
You are very welcome! That will be $10 please and I only take cash.

Sevendays · M

@swirlie it is in the mail. Don't forget to check your mail every day.

swirlie · 31-35, F

@Sevendays
Hey! That's my line!

Sevendays · M

@swirlie Or I can run up a tab. Your choice.