Action over feelings
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We can go wrong thinking love is just some feeling or romantic idealized sensation. Feelings are fickle and always changing.
The action of it is the real stability.
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What say you?
Feelings are fickle and always changing.
The action of it is the real stability.
________________
What say you?
SW-User
I believe love comes through in the little things someone does for me or around me.
Asking me how I am, remembering the things I like, or said, taking my feelings into consideration, etc.
Anyone can love bomb someone and make temporary grand gestures out of what they call 'love'. But history has proven time and again, grand gestures have an expiration date even if real, little acts of love are long lasting. They give you that feeling of comfort and home, and safety.
Asking me how I am, remembering the things I like, or said, taking my feelings into consideration, etc.
Anyone can love bomb someone and make temporary grand gestures out of what they call 'love'. But history has proven time and again, grand gestures have an expiration date even if real, little acts of love are long lasting. They give you that feeling of comfort and home, and safety.
ElRengo · 70-79, M
I agree.
Even so.......
Where there are deep feelings there are frequently consistent actions.
And actions may (only may) feedback with our hearts.
So yes, facts over subjectivity IMO.
But (but, but)...
IF this feeds the mainstream fraud of to love versus being in love (when about relationships) THEN I say bs.
Have it if you choose to.
Stability over passion.
The weak maladie of our culture, dualism.
So, with my full respect for the ones that think otherwise.....
If only one of them ("facts" / "feelings") is all what there is, I would stay alone.
And would loose nothing of some value.
Even so.......
Where there are deep feelings there are frequently consistent actions.
And actions may (only may) feedback with our hearts.
So yes, facts over subjectivity IMO.
But (but, but)...
IF this feeds the mainstream fraud of to love versus being in love (when about relationships) THEN I say bs.
Have it if you choose to.
Stability over passion.
The weak maladie of our culture, dualism.
So, with my full respect for the ones that think otherwise.....
If only one of them ("facts" / "feelings") is all what there is, I would stay alone.
And would loose nothing of some value.
ElRengo · 70-79, M
@SW-User
I gess we are saying near to the same seen from different perspectives or hope so.
Yes. there is some risk to call love to a high school infatuation, it happens and it use to end badly.
And love is, you are right, way more than just a feeling.
Even so there is a symmetrical risk, at least as inmature (though socially validated) and sick as the above.
To call love, the one specific between patners, to domestic, family love.
Which is good, but not at all of the same nature.
And when this theorized fraud takes the place of the other kind of love it´s not worth it´s name.
And for my hopes it also ends badly even and perhaps specially if it lasts.
My own view is, both or none,
All blessings to you.
I gess we are saying near to the same seen from different perspectives or hope so.
Yes. there is some risk to call love to a high school infatuation, it happens and it use to end badly.
And love is, you are right, way more than just a feeling.
Even so there is a symmetrical risk, at least as inmature (though socially validated) and sick as the above.
To call love, the one specific between patners, to domestic, family love.
Which is good, but not at all of the same nature.
And when this theorized fraud takes the place of the other kind of love it´s not worth it´s name.
And for my hopes it also ends badly even and perhaps specially if it lasts.
My own view is, both or none,
All blessings to you.
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SW-User
@SW-User Yep good point!
SW-User
@SW-User Fo sho. Behavior trumps words!
Zonuss · 46-50, M
The truest form of love is when you learn how to live yourself first before trying to love someone else.