How to stop comparing yourself to your much hotter friend?

I need some real advice. I have this one friend who is legitimately stunning like model-level beautiful and I can’t stop comparing myself to her every time we hang out or when I see her pics. It’s starting to mess with my head and I hate feeling this way because I love her and she’s done nothing wrong. How do you stop the comparison spiral when the difference feels so obvious?

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Pretzel · 70-79, M

wish I could just say "stop it" but that's not realistic

truth is we are all so visually oriented - pretty people are "better" - "ugly people" are stupid and worth less.

which is crap. we know it but we still let it mess with our heads.

and here's the weird thing - your attractive factor is not an absolute. if you stand next to your friend - some people will find her more attractive ...some people will find you more attractive.

and here's a dirty little secret- age is going to level the playing field - you'll both get wrinkles, lose some muscle tone and some people chase the scalpel or needle to put off the decline.

and some people just say - "oh hell, it doesn't matter"

or you might look back at pictures of you from a decade or two ago and realize you were a lot more attractive than you gave yourself credit for.

hang in there.