How to stop comparing yourself to your much hotter friend?

I need some real advice. I have this one friend who is legitimately stunning like model-level beautiful and I can’t stop comparing myself to her every time we hang out or when I see her pics. It’s starting to mess with my head and I hate feeling this way because I love her and she’s done nothing wrong. How do you stop the comparison spiral when the difference feels so obvious?

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DancingStarGoddess ·

It's going to take some time honestly and not going to be easy. But at least you understand that it's a you problem and not a her problem which is a step ahead. Her perceived beauty or attractiveness does not negate your own obviously and she's allowed to take up space and shine as are you. What she looks like is not a threat to you and the feeling is something inside of yourself. It might be something to speak with her about sincerely or even a counselor to figure out why you have the feelings that you do or to help you be more comfortable in your own skin. I hope you get to the bottom of it and can let it go. You'll be so much happier. It really helps you to be able to bond with, celebrate and appreciate other women without that feeling in your heart and mind.