it's hard to be a man nowadays
being a man nowadays can be scary. everyone expects a certain stoicism in you. society expects that you repress emotions and “act manly”. emotions are prohibited by standards.
I'm an heterosexual male in my 30s in a well-paying job therefore to many people I’m personally the reason for so many ills in the world today.
it’s assumed that life is easy for me and that I didn’t have to work hard to get where I am today.
Men are always bringing each other down while women can so easily and happily bring each other up. Public comments saying “you look lovely or beautiful" on social media pics are often commented on on women’s pictures. not that men can’t look lovely or beautiful, or that they don’t receive the same response, sometimes, on a normal selfie a man might take. it could go either unnoticed or eventually be taken over and meme’d beyond the initial meaning beyond the post. men don’t get the same attention or reaction women receive.
there’s hostility to men having problems. although women are understandably annoyed at some inequalities towards men, to categorise all men with the same brush is wrong. men also suffer inequality towards women. this creates the environment where men will feel castigated if they suggest they have a problem. it's linked with why so many men never speak out against their battles against the likes of depression. gender equality is essential, and still has a way to go but for some women or feminists to believe that only women can suffer problems is wrong. this is very toxic.
I find it hard to express my feelings because it makes me sound weak. in my work, love and social life I find it hard to express feelings if they have been hurt. even typing that makes me sound "weak", so no way could I bring myself to say it. whatever is bothering we are forced to push it deep down, get over it, and move on.
at work I've been several times subjected to sexism in the workplace that if it was on the other foot would get me fired. there is very little I can’t get behind with regard to feminism but the double standard is huge. there is no such thing as sexism for men. And if you mention it you are met with aggression and ridicule. like I will probably be in the comments to this post.
men are guilty until proven innocent and women are innocent until proven guilty, specially in things like rape. men are openly discriminated against when it comes to jobs that insist on gender quotas. at that point men have lost their character.popular opinion suggests men are the ones in power, and men are at fault for all the wrongs in the world, without realising men are hurt by the injustices. it works both ways. it's not only one way.
You have to apologise for who you are’
I find the pressure of being a male quite intense. on the one hand, you are still expected to be a strong, reliable provider in a world where job security and good wages are hard to find. on the other, any way of laughing and relaxing is fraught with difficulties. an old-fashioned night spent joking with friends is impossible. you cannot be free and honest with your opinions, and feel you have to apologise for who you are.
even in media advertising etc the ploy is to depict the man as the lazy fool. men are shown as incompetent, or uncaring, and in the current climate, if woman were depicted in this way, this would be unacceptable.
so yea, it's hard to be a man.
I'm an heterosexual male in my 30s in a well-paying job therefore to many people I’m personally the reason for so many ills in the world today.
it’s assumed that life is easy for me and that I didn’t have to work hard to get where I am today.
Men are always bringing each other down while women can so easily and happily bring each other up. Public comments saying “you look lovely or beautiful" on social media pics are often commented on on women’s pictures. not that men can’t look lovely or beautiful, or that they don’t receive the same response, sometimes, on a normal selfie a man might take. it could go either unnoticed or eventually be taken over and meme’d beyond the initial meaning beyond the post. men don’t get the same attention or reaction women receive.
there’s hostility to men having problems. although women are understandably annoyed at some inequalities towards men, to categorise all men with the same brush is wrong. men also suffer inequality towards women. this creates the environment where men will feel castigated if they suggest they have a problem. it's linked with why so many men never speak out against their battles against the likes of depression. gender equality is essential, and still has a way to go but for some women or feminists to believe that only women can suffer problems is wrong. this is very toxic.
I find it hard to express my feelings because it makes me sound weak. in my work, love and social life I find it hard to express feelings if they have been hurt. even typing that makes me sound "weak", so no way could I bring myself to say it. whatever is bothering we are forced to push it deep down, get over it, and move on.
at work I've been several times subjected to sexism in the workplace that if it was on the other foot would get me fired. there is very little I can’t get behind with regard to feminism but the double standard is huge. there is no such thing as sexism for men. And if you mention it you are met with aggression and ridicule. like I will probably be in the comments to this post.
men are guilty until proven innocent and women are innocent until proven guilty, specially in things like rape. men are openly discriminated against when it comes to jobs that insist on gender quotas. at that point men have lost their character.popular opinion suggests men are the ones in power, and men are at fault for all the wrongs in the world, without realising men are hurt by the injustices. it works both ways. it's not only one way.
You have to apologise for who you are’
I find the pressure of being a male quite intense. on the one hand, you are still expected to be a strong, reliable provider in a world where job security and good wages are hard to find. on the other, any way of laughing and relaxing is fraught with difficulties. an old-fashioned night spent joking with friends is impossible. you cannot be free and honest with your opinions, and feel you have to apologise for who you are.
even in media advertising etc the ploy is to depict the man as the lazy fool. men are shown as incompetent, or uncaring, and in the current climate, if woman were depicted in this way, this would be unacceptable.
so yea, it's hard to be a man.
