If you find yourself constantly telling someone what they should want, need and be...

Then for the love of everything holy please effing understand you do NOT love them.

Just leave them alone. You do not love them. You love what you want them to be. Stop pushing and molding them to your idea of perfect.
It is maddening.

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Kstrong · 56-60, F

Was married to that for years.... they wanted me to fit this image they had of their perfect partner.... couldn't accept and love me as i was, only what they wanted me to be ...

Miram · 31-35, F

@Kstrong How are you doing now that they are out of the picture?

Kstrong · 56-60, F

@Miram im flourishing now, able to be myself

Miram · 31-35, F

@Kstrong good, I am happy for you.

Kstrong · 56-60, F

@Miram thank you very much, able to pursue the direction i want to head in