Children aren't allowed to be children anymore.

@SW-User This assumes all parents do their job as parents and teach them anything at all. Provided we assume they do (like you most likely do,) I would agree with your statement 💯. Problem is most don’t. It’s a very sad truth.

@JustGoneNow
Parenthood isn't a "job". It's the natural evolutionary cycle of having offspring, and raising that offspring in accordance with your values. Different people have different values, and all parents ought to have the right to independently oversee the lives of their children, deciding how they should raise them and how they would like their child's life and their own to be.


That's just inane trash that people who aren't parents say. Come back when you don't have any untrue, boring, totally disingenuous, dumb_fucking comments to make.

@SW-User Wow. I complemented you and said that I think you are better than most parents today and you just trashed me in a really mean way. I hope you feel good about yourself for attacking someone who was being nice to you. Because it was pretty shitty, really. You weren’t very kind at all. I guess that I’m just going to pray for you. Be safe and be well. 🖤

@JustGoneNow

I don't care for your "compliment", and I disagree with what you have said. I'd say the same to anyone who wrote that, regardless of whether they think they complimented me or not.


rofl...okiee.

@SW-User


You are not kind at all. You’re an incredibly rude and mean person. It’s not about agreeing with me at all… it is simply about you being rude and hateful. That’s on you… not on me.

I also didn’t agree with you. I just didn’t feel the need to attack you for it, but I will still pray for you.

@SW-User Yes it's a parents right to raise their children how they wish. However to force a child to dress in a particular way (dress as a girl when they're a boy) that's not the child's choice really. That's parents sowing the seeds and not allowing the child their own freedom to be who they want to be. Just an example of what I meant.

@Lanie78 would that also apply to a child that was born a boy that wants to wear a dress but this parent forces the child to dress as a boy since they were born a boy, even though that’s against the child’s wishes as well?

@Lanie78 How do you know those children are forced? Some parents give them the choice, others might use coercion or manipulation...it depends on the parent and the children. I would maintain that it's the parent's right to dress their child how they like.

What is problematic, however, is when parents try to expose other children to ideas or ways of life other parents may not agree with. As said in my original comment, the state and people who aren't the child's parents should leave individuals alone and respect family life. I'm inclined to think you wouldn't want anyone dictating to how you parent, so maybe you should respect that other parents, people who you disagree with, can do as they wish. That's how it should be if we're going to be consistent about matters.

@SW-User I agree it's down to a parent how they choose to parent their child. It isn't my place to tell them how to raise their children. This said some parenting styles are questionable, especially if they're neglectful/abusive. If I were aware of abuse and a child were being harmed I would report them to the relevant authorities. Sadly it goes onore than we know. Parents just need to do everything in the best interests of their children. We don't always get it right, but the least we can do it be responsible and not raise them to be confused and then struggle in their adult lives.

@Lanie78 what would you consider abuse or neglect?

@SW-User Bullying, physical punishment (leaves marks) emotional neglect. Anything where it's obvious the child is suffering. Sadly many children see it as the norm and it goes unnoticed by others for whatever reason.

@Lanie78 All of the above is as absurd as I expected it to be. I don't necessarily view it as likely that I will engage in physical acts of discipline, but respect parents who do. You should know there is a difference in impulsive demonstrations of anger and controlled, physical discipline of a child...one is intended to help the child, while the other may be purely reckless. "Leaves marks", as you say, is vague criteria for abuse.

Bullying and emotional suffering is even more vague. How do you define bullying and emotional suffering, and why would that lead you to conclude abuse? Don't all children suffer emotionally at some point, and aren't all parents complex?

@SW-User Absurd no. Talking from experience regarding bullying and emotional neglect, plus being physically disciplined. It happens. Yes probably was more of a norm in the 70's/80's smacking etc. Yes parenting is complex. I don't parent how I was raised. Causes trauma, that isn't always displayed until adulthood.

@SW-User Good parenting is being able to parent fairly but without having resort to physical punishment/Silent treatment etc.
If you think that's absurd then 🤷

@Lanie78 Every other parent in the world is different to your parents, because we're all different people. You may have had a negative experience of physical discipline, but that is subjective and not necessarily the case for others who experienced it in their childhood. In fact, I'm sure there are many who can testify to the positive impact of corporal punishment when it is used correctly. I know people in my family who can.