Why is it that men sit there smoking and playing with their phone, while the woman feeds the child and takes care of them?
Were they not there when they conceived the child??
31-35, F
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Because sexism exists. People don't like to admit it but even in the simple things like that it's still prevalent. A woman can work, make more than her husband and her husband sometimes washes the dishes and everybody's like "problem solved!". But take a look at who always has to be there doing something.all.the.time. The day when I see most men taking INITIATIVE to clean, take care of their children, do most of the chores without being asked and without being praised for it either and actually doing it every single day will be the day that I will believe the patriarchy doesn't exist anymore.
bijouxbroussard · F
@HannibalAteMeOut Part of it will happen when we start raising boys in that reality. I learned how to cook because I wanted to, not because I saw it as my role.
My father tried to teach my brother how to cook ("you like to eat, don’t you ?" he asked him) but bro was never that interested. When he left home I gave him some easy cookbooks, and he had to do some catching up to do.
But if boys are raised with the expectations that they might need to know how to cook for themselves, and should clean up after themselves regardless, maybe fewer will see that (even subconsciously) as "the woman’s job".
My father tried to teach my brother how to cook ("you like to eat, don’t you ?" he asked him) but bro was never that interested. When he left home I gave him some easy cookbooks, and he had to do some catching up to do.
But if boys are raised with the expectations that they might need to know how to cook for themselves, and should clean up after themselves regardless, maybe fewer will see that (even subconsciously) as "the woman’s job".
HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F
@bijouxbroussard yes, it starts with childhood when parents tend to differentiate tasks for daughters and sons and they carry it into adulthood. I believe they need to live on their own for a while, with nobody taking care of them, to see how important it is. Women too, they need to live alone and find independence and then they will realize how it's not logical for one party to care about everything while the other doesn't care at all. Granted it's often within a person to be lazy or tidy, can be found in all genders. But we should take into consideration the emotional labour women do when they have to ask "do this" or when they criticize how men do things. It's not easy to be the only one who has to think, make remarks, ask, teach etc... That's why people often say "But he helps a lot!". No, women don't need "help", they need equality. When have we ever heard of someone saying "She's such a good wife, she helps him!"? Never?
bijouxbroussard · F
@HannibalAteMeOut We hear it when she helps him in work or business matters, because that is supposedly not a woman’s strength. A friend asked something recently that would probably upset people here, but it’s food for thought:
"Would transgenderism still be an issue if gender equality was accepted fact ? Would it matter, if the aspects that made you feel like you were born in the wrong body were suddenly just alternate aspects of being the gender you were born ?" 🤯
"Would transgenderism still be an issue if gender equality was accepted fact ? Would it matter, if the aspects that made you feel like you were born in the wrong body were suddenly just alternate aspects of being the gender you were born ?" 🤯
HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F
@bijouxbroussard I've wondered the same many times, what if we stopped defining femininity and masculinity the way we currently do... I guess only trans people can tell us though.
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
@HannibalAteMeOut I agree with you