Dudes, Dudebros, Grand-Dudes
You don't have permission to annoy me in private messaging when it was clear that in a public forum I did not choose to engage with you about something that has no value to me.
Example:
In a comment thread...
Me: I don't like X (which may be tangential to a comment I made).
You: I like X. Does X disturb you?
Me: We have different preferences, and that's fine.
In private messaging...
You: Can you rate my X?
Me: Let's not talk about X.
You: I am just curious.
Me: I don't have to explain it to you. (Annoyed by now.)
Bottom line: I really don't care about how you prefer your X.
Example:
In a comment thread...
Me: I don't like X (which may be tangential to a comment I made).
You: I like X. Does X disturb you?
Me: We have different preferences, and that's fine.
In private messaging...
You: Can you rate my X?
Me: Let's not talk about X.
You: I am just curious.
Me: I don't have to explain it to you. (Annoyed by now.)
Bottom line: I really don't care about how you prefer your X.