@helenoftroy2000 I was out of control with her, expecting way too much, being way too much, and putting way too much pressure on her. I don't really know why I acted that way, but now that I don't interact with her any more that overwhelming pressure on me that I put on her has eased substantially. So I don't have inner peace yet, but I achieved some modicum of something similar in this case.

@exchrist thanks

@sundazzled True. I was the toxic one though.