I Am Single

I'm divorced. I have been for three years now, but it still feels a little strange to be 'single' again, especially as my ex husband is now married to the woman he left me for. Does it still hurt? Of course it does, after thirty years of marriage that ended with an affair it has taken it's toll. There is no easy way to get over the love of your life shoving you aside for a newer, younger model. But life goes on, doesn't it?

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Anopenheart · 51-55, M

THAT SUCKS, AND HURTS. really. sorry you had to go through that. the only comfort is knowing that he has to live with himself, and you dont. i hope you find something or someone here

Petitefleur · 61-69, F

He's happily settled now with the person he left me for. But it's good to know of others online who have been through similar experiences and learn how they coped. Life moves on. ☺

Anopenheart · 51-55, M

@Petitefleur: my wife left me for another woman while my father was dying of cancer. I went in to a black hole i never thought i would get out of. i could not see a future. but now i feel sorry for her. i created a whole new life that is not a reaction to her or defined by how she has more than me. plus, i believe in karma.

decka1965 · 56-60, M

@innocentfun4u: Hello,be nice to think your right about this karma thing,my ex didn't leave me for anyone else,I left her after years of being controlled,living in a unloving relationship,forgetting who you are and all respect for yourself,when my father was dying of cancer in hospital,I used to ask permission to visit him to be told I could pop in for a couple of hours on a Sunday night,that was just one thing in a long list of many,after leaving she couldn't control me so she controlled the kids turning them against me,we've never spoken for 2 years. How as this left me,I'm jovial,fun to be around,women enjoy my company but I'm the biggest commitment phobia on gods earth,give up my independence,no way, I wish I wasn't so down on love but it would be hard to take the chance.