We Should Stop Meeting...

@sarabee1995 🤞

@sarabee1995 😬

@ShadowSister Oh!!! Heavens no. There is zero chance of me dating him.

I meant do I write up last night's encounter for all of SW to enjoy. He sat down at my table (without asking) and made a very weak-ass attempt at an apology for last week. It was pretty funny.

@sarabee1995 Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Good. You had me seriously worried there.

Yes, you should absolutely write it up. We need all the juicy details. You can't start us on the soap opera and then cut us off before the end. Spill the tea, girl!

(Don't forget to include links to the other stories too, so everyone knows that it's the same guy, and for those who like to binge read drama.)

@ShadowSister Hahaha, okay, I should have time tomorrow for that. 😉

@LeopoldBloom Exactly!!! Just be real. Be yourself. Don't look at me and try to figure out what kind of guy I would like and then temporarily mold yourself into that. Just be real!

@ShadowSister

Did he do anything morally wrong other than annoying you?

No. And that is why he is still standing. What this post shows is that I have a game plan in most circumstances so that if an aggressor takes action, he/she will be dealt with decisively.

You do realize I spent a year as a mission planner with an electronic attack squadron, right? Every scenario gamed out to the smallest detail so there was always a play no matter what happened when the shit hit the fan.

@sarabee1995 Thank you for your thoughtful responses.

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh-kay. Yeah, there's a TON of additional relevant context here. FIVE TIMES???? Wait, is this the approach-you-while-you're-reading-your-Kindle guy TOO? I'm starting to get the full picture here. I thought you had lots of guys doing this all the time. Nope. Just one obnoxious guy over and over and over and over and over.

No dispute with you about the sheepdog thing. The church has a long theological tradition of the appropriate uses of force, the just war theory, etc. I don't need to rehash that here. You know where your priest is if you want to explore that further.

The important thing is that you are not meditating on how to get revenge on this guy. That is the piece I was really struggling with. And to me, that is the point of the verse. I'm not pushing for absolute non-violence. I'm advocating the intention of non-violence, but recognizing that some situations require the use of force. I think we're on the same page now. I definitely was not catching those vibes from your original post.

Okay, so last thing. I am going to STRONGLY suggest that you plan out an explicit statement to say to him when this happens again. (And at this point, we can safely assume that it will.) Be very direct with him and tell him that you are not interested, and that you want him to leave you alone. The diplomatic solution is necessary at this point since the method of trying to ignore him has obviously failed.

And technically it's not even diplomacy, since you're not looking to open two-way communications with him. It's more about just clearly stating your terms to a hostile party.

PS
For what it's worth, if I was in a dark alley, I can't think of anyone I would trust more to protect me than you. I have no doubt that the scenario you outlined would go exactly as you imagined it would. If it ever came up. I pray it never will.

@ShadowSister Yes, these posts are about the same guy. Sorry for not including that detail.

No, definitely not meditating on revenge. I don't accept revenge as a justification for violence ever.

My intent is always peaceful. But at the same time, I am always prepared to win if violence erupts. I always have a plan.

You are likely right about him needing a more direct approach from me in order to understand I'm not playing some kind of ridiculous hard-to-get game. I'll consider that.

We pray for the same thing. 🙏

@Repete Well since I spent a year of my time with the Navy as a mission planner, I agree completely. 🙂

I’ll forgive you for that. 🙃 I’m joking , I was in the Marines 😂 @sarabee1995

@Repete As was my grandfather; Gunnery Sergeant in Viet Nam.

He taught me to handle a rifle when I was 13. Later, on the range at Officer Training School as I qualified first try as Expert on the M16, the Navy Chief asked me who taught me to shoot. You can imagine his response when I gave all credit to the Corps!! 🤣

Semper Fidelis my friend.

@pdqsailor1 Lol, no worries. I don't start fights. I've had occasion to finish a few, but I've never started one.

@DeWayfarer Oh! That's awful! Did the kid not get taken away from her?

@sarabee1995 Haven't seen it around, that was over two years ago. So I assume that it was taken away. And why she's so mad at me. Not that she was ever nice to me. Heck not even to some of her own neighbors. She has often gotten into both verbal fights and physical fights with some of the neighbors.

I stay away from her despite the snide remarks which I can hear across the way. Both buildings acts like a echo chamber. And I am certain she knows it.

@DeWayfarer Oh, I see. Yes, not a good situation for you. I think your strategy of ignoring her is the right strategy. For now anyway.

@sarabee1995 😎

@JustGoneNow Hahaha ... yes, of course. You know I did save a "damsel in distress" once, right?

@sarabee1995 I can be a damsel. *bats my eyes cutely*

@JustGoneNow Lol ...

This was written about ten years ago: https://similarworlds.com/4126823-I-Was-Suspended-From-School/1353314-I-Was-Just-Trying-To-Help-My-Friend-This-is

@TexChik Yeah, I'm getting the distinct feeling that this guy just hangs out all day up there. It's a very nice kinda boardwalk-y place with sit-down eats as well as food trucks and walk-up counters. All right on the water with boats and lots of seating. My kinda place.

Except for him. He's almost always there and I'm not willing to give up going there. Fortunately for him, nothing will happen while I wear a uniform during the day. Conduct unbecoming is not the way I want to leave the Navy.

But I can daydream...

@sarabee1995 the guy at the grocery pushed all the buttons, I did want to do more

@TexChik Self control is an important skill to learn. Otherwise we'd be dropping these guys left and right.

@melbeacher Nothing was actually done here. No misogynistic narcissists were harmed in the scripting of this story.

@sarabee1995 👍

@Teslin Probably good advice. Or at least don't approach from behind. That can be dangerous.

@JoyfulSilence As much as I like the way you think, I cannot initiate the fight. Rest assured, however, that if this guy ever did start anything physical, I can and would finish it.

@sarabee1995

Don't forget to also toss him into the Bay.

Yet feet first since it can be shallow. You would not want him to hit his shallow head.

@spjennifer Yes ma'am! Yum yum

@vetguy1991 This was not his first attempt, Wes. This guy has approached me FIVE times so far. Each time with some line or lyric or something. But yeah, that was almost word-for-word.

@sarabee1995 🤦‍♂️

@KiwiBird I live in a world of déjà vu everyday. Life repeats over and over and over!

@Pretzel Well, nothing was actually done. But thanks.

@sarabee1995 good story though

@Pretzel Oh. Okay, thanks. 🙂

@Gangstress Actually, it didn't escalate at all. It may at some point in the future though. At this point I'm just gaming out the possibilities. :)

@Yulianna I knew you would! ;)

@sarabee1995 🇺🇦👍🇺🇸

@Adogslife A snake shot? Really? 🙄

@Bang5luts Woulda been for me; not so much for him. 🤷‍♀️

@sarabee1995

@Stereoguy Whatever gave you that idea?? 😇