Are you one of them girls?

@ShadowSister At the time, I didn't get the reference beyond just vaguely recognizing the words as some song lyric so I didn't really react other than a smile and then turning back to watch the boats. Had I recognized the song and known the lyrics, he's have gotten more of a reaction.

As for getting hit on... Well, it was about 2100 (9:00pm) on a Saturday and I was sitting alone at a high-top table and the evening bar crowd was starting to shuffle in. I think in that circumstance, most twenty-something girls are getting hit on. 🤷‍♀️

@sarabee1995 What kind of reaction would he have gotten? I take it that he approached a single girl who turned him down, he made a reference that essentially means you play "hard to get," and then he left you alone. On a Saturday night at 2100 hours. Was there anything wrong with his reference? Maybe he was trying to save face?

Also... let me get this straight. You were out on the East Coast. Staring at the boats. Far from the South. On the East Coast. In New England. On the East Coast... and he referenced a random country song? I know I sure wouldn't have gotten the reference. I'm kinda surprised he expected that you would.

@ShadowSister [quote][i][b]Ain't you, one of them girls?
Ask you to dance, you say, "No"
Just to see how far I'll go[/b][/i][/quote]
I didn't say no just to see how far he'd go. I said no because I meant no. The song reference implies that I was playing games with him and that my actions were in some way about him. I can assure you: my actions had absolutely nothing to do with him.

Actually I'm not in New England these days. Cape Cod is certainly home for me and always will be, but for the last 17 months I've been living and working in the Metro Washington DC area. The marina where I'm staying these days is in Maryland on the Chesapeake Bay.

@ShadowSister And the place definitely had a country vibe.

@sarabee1995 Ohhh that all makes sense. Being on the boat in Cape Cod would be a pretty long commute.

I can't imagine living on a boat. I'm still kind of in awe.

Is the song is obnoxious? Of course. But. After he made the reference, he left you alone. So if he was referencing the song, he certainly wasn't acting like you were the girl in the song. Otherwise he would have kept trying to get you. But he didn't keep trying, he respected your answer. As he should have. I'm just saying I wouldn't read too much into it.

@ShadowSister Well, after he made the reference, I turned away. Anything but leaving me alone would've been difficult for him at that point.

As for living in the boat... Just think of it as a floating RV. Or an oceanside condo with a not-so-stable foundation.

Space is of course very limited. Most of my stuff is in storage. To take a shower I need to go up to the club house. But I live small so it works for me. 🙂

@sarabee1995 Kinda like a tiny house, except way more expensive lol. It does sound like fun actually. I can see why you would be drawn to it.

@ShadowSister I'm drawn every moment of every day to the ocean. It's in my blood. 🧜‍♀️

@sarabee1995 Me:

@sarabee1995 So the other day I kayaked across the lake with my 12-year-old, and I took her out for a hamburger at a local bar and grill. Much to my chagrin, they mostly play country music. This song came on. I never would have even noticed the song except for your post about it.

For whatever reason, your story keeps sticking with me. Are you more bothered by the lyrics of the song? Or by the fact that he applied it as a label to you? Or something else? Or a mixture of multiple things?

When I play the video, it has the vibes of a good-old-boy down-home wholesome country song, the kind where the world is pretty much perfect in their straight country world. I can appreciate what someone would like about those songs, though I'm never going to resonate with them. Everything about them just feels yuck to me. But don't yuck someone else's yum, right? I can fully accept that for a country boy, that girl is his perfect scenario. I get the sense that she's more attractive to him because she's just concerned with her life (and in the video, her daughter), she's not all about picking up guys. If she's not all about the boys when he tries to hit on her, she's not going to be all about the boys after they get together either. I don't know, I'm assuming. I don't really know how a country boy thinks.

Reminds me of a guy who hit on me in the bar late one Saturday night, ironically the same place as I took my 12-year-old (except that she and I were there much earlier, and we were seated in the dining area, not at the bar). I was out by myself that night, so I welcomed having someone to talk to. But he took our conversation as an indication that I was interested, which I most definitely was not. He also mentioned his political views, which happen to be opposite of mine, and made it clear what he thought about liberals. Needless to say, I did not reciprocate by sharing my views. I did convince him during that conversation that maybe he should consider going back to church. (Hey, I'm me.) I'm not sure how I feel about that conversation in general. I was glad not to sit alone at the bar that night, but yet he made me feel like I never want to go back there by unless I'm with a friend.

But then your situation a few weeks ago. He hits on you and then references the song when you tell him no and turn away. I'm still trying to figure out what he meant by it. Was he trying to save face? Was he referencing the entire lyrical content of the song and implying it applies to you? Was he hoping you would say, "yes," and acknowledge that you were intentionally playing hard to get? Or was it just a little throw-away comment? I'm still confused by his comment. And hearing the song come on the other day made me wonder about it again.