Hooked up with a guy who turned out to be married

I feel like a moron.
He led me on.
He told me he was single.
In hindsight I could have known he was lieing because he was very handsome. Too handsome to be single.
I hoped that he was one of the good guys who was not lieing though.

So we went for dinner, had a few drinks and had sex.
Found out through a mutual friend that he was not single.

Feel played.
Feel used.
Thought I found a good one.

Messaged him that I knew he is a cheater.
Got a stupid silly story that he said he is single because he is in a unhappy marriage and soon to divorce and yadda yadda.
Probably even more lies.

I will probably not be seeing him anymore.
Relationships are built on trust, not lies.

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Jimmy2016 · 61-69, M

🤔.........I imagine you're not the only one he went out with for dinner and hooked up afterwards.
He could have been up front with you and just said hey, I'm married and unhappy and in the middle of a divorce proceedings and maybe we could just hang out together for now or when the divorce is final, whatever you are comfortable with if you're interested in me.............. but he didn't........or I'm married but separated from my wife and we don't live together doing are divorce proceedings, if that was the case........or maybe he is not really getting a divorce, but he really happens to start to have feelings for you, and you for him, you could end up being the other women who causes the divorce.
Just a few thoughts for you

BreakfastGirl · 36-40, F

@Jimmy2016 Don't know where my feelings are currently. I still crush on him, still think he's cute but he's a cheater who used me as a side chick. That really doesn't indicate respect either. Why couldn't be just have told me about his home situation? Is it even true. I have no idea of knowing whether he is actually in a divorce procedure or not. I can only go off on his explanation.
I had such a great evening and now this.
I honestly am ready to give up on dating.
All the guys that I crush on end up being insanely hot looking narcissistic cheaters. :-(