If i was thin and beautiful maybe then id finally have someone.

@Notanymore ?

@IAmNothing are you certain that physical appearance is that important to finding someone special?

@Notanymore Yes because how someone looks gets you noticed. It's the first thing someone sees. If they arent interested on the first glance then they won't pursue further.

@IAmNothing but that can be arranged with body confidence, you dont need to be skinny to get noticed

@SW-User If I'm noticed it's because damn she's ugly or fat

@IAmNothing and that immediate attraction is easy come easy go. Wouldn't finding someone be better, if you found someone that loves you even if you aren't a supermodel?

@Notanymore Would be nice but it's not likely going to happen

@IAmNothing why the hell not?

@IAmNothing well not with that attitude, I'm sorry but you need to get some confidence. That's a good start

@SW-User this!

@Notanymore Ha! That person doesn't exist.

@LadyGrace good and honest people still exist

@SW-User You're judging her and you just don't understand. You haven't been through this. It's nothing she's doing wrong. It is not her attitude at all. It's that people are shallow and they don't want you unless you meet their standards. Especially these days. You don't understand at all. Not unless you've been through this. What she is saying is right on. People are shallow and to blame her attitude is just sad because you have no idea what it's like to go through this. If what you say is true then why hasn't she found someone by now? I tried my whole life to find someone genuine who would just accept me for who I am but with no luck and now I'll be 76 soon, so people cannot tell me as much as I have tried, and proven a hundred times that though everyone says I'm beautiful inside and out and I have such a great caring and loving personality, and I get along great with everyone and treat them so good, that people are not shallow because if they weren't, we would have had someone already. When you're rejected every time, that only proves there's no one that is genuine and will accept you for who you are, anymore. Their love is always conditional. Many may disagree with me and get angry, but they have not been in my shoes and experienced what I have experienced, like this lady who posted this. There may be the rare one out there but I never found him. And now that I'm old, it's pretty doubtful I should get my hopes up because after all these years, I don't want to get my hopes up. It only brings hurt and disappointment.

@LadyGrace I'm not judging her, she complains about her weight and looks being the problem, which is not true... I'm sorry you havent found someone, but why bring her down because of it? She is not 76 and still has time..

@SW-User I'm 28 I'm nearing my expiration date in terms of being wanted by men

@IAmNothing okay then, I'm just going to start agreeing with you

You're ugly and are going to die alone... is that what you want to hear?

@SW-User it's true

@IAmNothing yes it is

@IAmNothing honestly @SW-User is right on this one. You are what's holding you back.

@SW-User I wasn't bringing her down. She knows how people are and your last comment to her was really insensitive and putting her down. I know what you're trying to accomplish but it doesn't work like that. And I wasn't trying to bring her down or discourage her. She's already discouraged. I was only using myself as an example to relay to you that it's not her attitude, I have found the same, but that doesn't mean she won't find someone. That could very well happen as she is still young. I agree with that. And I sure hope she does. I realize that just because I was not able to find someone that that doesn't mean she won't. Not by any means. She should not give up. Unfortunately, it just didn't happen for me.

@LadyGrace you've always been really kind and caring I'm surprised that you habe trouble finding someone.

@Notanymore Oh you're so sweet, thank you. No I have not, because as you know, I have certain standards that are dear to me and I stand by, because I have self-respect and love for myself not to abandon my preferences and standards, just to please someone else.

@LadyGrace i understand that, but surely there's a list of men with similar standards and personal beliefs thatbwould love your company.

@Notanymore I wish. I thought so too, but no. And it hurts too much to even entertain that thought anymore.

@LadyGrace i have faith in it for you