I Am Single

I want to be in relationship but than I don't. I am confused and scared and don't know what I want. I am also afraid to be in a relationship because I am unsure about myself and who I am and what I want. I am so in indecisive and back and forth with things, many things. I am trying to figure out myself and make myself better before I can be in a relationship. I know that I do not need to be perfect in order to be in a relationship, but I want to be able to give my all to the person I am. I dislike that I am like this at my age. I need to get better emotionally and know what I want. I hope that sooner than later I will get better in order to be the best possible person that I can be. I know I can be a good girlfriend and wife someday I just need to better myself even if I remain single for sometime more. Its okay Id rather better myself than be selfish and give my person the best version of myself.

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OceanGuy33 · 51-55, M

Egad women! Buck up!! You’re making eeyore come off down right peppy!! It’s ok to be a little bitchy for yourself!

Fernie · F

@OceanGuy33 what in the hell are you talking about oh creepy one?

OceanGuy33 · 51-55, M

I’m just saying she seems to be self evaluating a lot. It’s ok to just be herself and not be so hard on herself!

JaneCas · 26-30, F

@OceanGuy33 I do not understand your comment?

OceanGuy33 · 51-55, M

Umm my suggestion to her is that she seems like a pretty good person to put that much effort into improving herself. A quality that probably helps in a relationship even. So instead of continuing this work I’m suggesting it might be ok to move a little forward in a positive direction celebrating her efforts this far. If that’s feels a little selfish to her since she is so self aware again I’m saying that’s ok for her! She might perhaps being too hard on herself. She might be better off than she worries and it’s ok to just be herself and chill a bit. That’s all. Eeyore is a Sky is falling kinda character from Winnie the Pooh. As opposed to say tigger who’s a bit more throw caution to the wind. Maybe a hair more tigger and a hair less Eeyore might help. I mean nothing negative towards her at all! Only best wishes!! @JaneCas

JaneCas · 26-30, F

Thank you ocean guy :) that put a smile on my face.

Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F

@OceanGuy33 I am glad you clarified. I think you gave good advice because more people are attracted to positive than negative.

SarAh, it is important that we work on ourselves so that we are comfortable and secure. Never let anyone else control who you see when you look in the mirror.

OceanGuy33 · 51-55, M

Good stuff! @Fungirlmmm

JaneCas · 26-30, F

@Fungirlmmm Thanks hun! :)

Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F

@JaneCas you're welcome. Believe in yourself.

SW-User

@OceanGuy33 I'd say Eeyore was not so much sky falling which suggests fear and panic, more like snow falling... the perpetual gloomy acceptance of life, yet always a wry observer