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I Am Single

I am single - AGAIN! After my wife went off and made a baby with someone else. I paid her half what I got for our home to be fair to her. Then I said goodbye to be fair to me. Perhaps I could have made a better decision with a little cooperation. A partnership of any kind requires fair and frank dealings and communication. No coupling can last if all decisions and dealings are one sided. The one essential ingredient of a successful relationship is agreement (IMHO). Without agreement intimacy is impossible. Divorce can be rough on kids and these days I try to be diplomatic with the mother of my two (now adult) children. The only reasons I still see her are in connection with them and our grandchildren. These dealings appear friendly. They are polite, respectful, and considerate in manner but not personal or intimate. If she was interested in negotiating something more friendly, fair and honest I would invest the time but I see little or no indication of interest on her behalf. I am not polyamorist. If she wants "open" relationships she can have as many men as she wants, other than me. In a fair game, you can not move the goalposts after the start of play. I have no desire to demonize her. Perhaps the simple truth is we married too young and are just not suited to one another.
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iamnikki · 31-35, F
wow, sorry about that. Was this recent? She must be alot younger. When did you marry?
QueenOfSmiles · 46-50, F
@iamnikki I wondered the same things...
will999 · 70-79, M
@iamnikki Hello. I was 22 and she was 17 when we married. I am still in contact with my two now adult children, it is the only reason I still see my EX. We are more than 30 years separated. 22 was definately too young to deal with all the in's and out's of a marriage commitment. She recently suggested we get together again but I tactfully dismissed the idea. Like it or not I still have to deal with the situation since we have 2 adult children and 2 grandchildren in common. If not for the kids I wouldn't see her at all which would be much simpler. I am eager to avoid any conflict with her that would upset my childrren. Diplomacy is my only option. what else can I do?
2cool4school · 46-50, F
@will999 I'm so sorry