I still think about other people

I’ve been in a committed relationship for almost 3 years. I love him but I still think about sex with other people. Men and women. I’ve never had sex with another woman but I really want to. We don’t have the best communication in the relationship. He doesn’t express his feelings and I have a hard time opening up to him as well. So obviously I’ve never expressed my feelings about it. Also I don’t want to hurt him.

We went to a BBQ with friends not too long ago. We were socializing with people and what not. I started talking to this guy. I’ve seen him around before because we have Mutual friends. I could tell he was into me. I was there with my partner. But I couldn’t help but fantasize about the other guy. Later on I touched myself while thinking about giving him head.

I would never do anything intentionally to hurt my partner. But I can’t help having these thoughts about other people. I know it’s natural to be attracted to other people but is it going too far thinking about them in a sexual way. I guess it’s ok if you don’t act on the feelings 🤷