I Think Too Much
I'm really over thinking this situation. I'm worried about what my family might think of this. It shouldn't be a big deal, but knowing them it probably will be. So here it is.
Recently I've been seeing this amazing guy. We've hung out a lot lately and I've been really getting to know him. Hes the sweetest person I've ever met. He gives me the love, respect and really the most maturity any guy has ever shown me. For God's sake, he even asks me before he puts his arm around me or kisses me. Its been really great and its made me so happy. And I can tell it makes him really happy too.
I just don't want a repeat of what happened last summer. My parents aren't really strict about dating or anything, but sometimes they put way too much of their negative input in it and it really has a detrimental effect on it. Last summer I dated this guy who was an atheist. That alone didn't bother me or my family. But he was such an ass about it. He could say whatever awful thing he wanted to about my religion but when I even asked him questions about it, he got really defensive. I never once wanted to convert him or change him, I just wanted to know more about it and the reasons he didn't believe. It wasn't really fair. And I guess they were really getting at the fact he was such an ass to me. He called and cussed me out one night because we had been talking about it and I guess I said the wrong thing unintentionally.the main issue I had was that he was such a jerk to me, regardless of the whole religious thing. He broke up with me the first time things got rocky.
With this guy im seeing now, hes a little different. I don't know how my family is gonna feel about him. They can be a little judgmental. In past relationships I can see why though, because they were all assholes that had no respect for me. But im worried they're gonna judge him based on outward appearance. Hes really tall, has really long gorgeous hair, kinda looks like Jesus. The whole religious thing with him isn't really an issue. Hes told me he believes in god and stuff and is open minded towards it but isnt necessarily a "Christian". It makes no difference to me because Christian guys I have dated were 2 faced. But my family will probably say "you should date a Christian guy" which I don't really agree with. But maybe once they meet him and see how much he respects me, they wont worry too much about it. And i don't want to push too far. I don't want to convert him unless he wants to. I would ask him if he wants to come to church (since its right up the street from his house) but I want to make it clear that I don't want to convert him. Its not my place nor my decision. Idk I just think it would be cool if he maybe came with me just to see what its like and learn about it. Even as simple as just going with me as a couple and so he can meet the amazing people at my church. Could that be a thing? I really don't want to push too hard. I don't know if he'll see it that way. And I don't want my family to push too far either. I've told him about them and he always says they seem amazing and that he'd love to meet them. But I don't know what's going to happen. At this point in my life, I need to really make decisions that's going to make me happy. Because this does. Its the first time I haven't had to bitterly chase after someone. I don't know what to do or even hoe to go about telling them without them asking a thousand nerve wracking questions.
Recently I've been seeing this amazing guy. We've hung out a lot lately and I've been really getting to know him. Hes the sweetest person I've ever met. He gives me the love, respect and really the most maturity any guy has ever shown me. For God's sake, he even asks me before he puts his arm around me or kisses me. Its been really great and its made me so happy. And I can tell it makes him really happy too.
I just don't want a repeat of what happened last summer. My parents aren't really strict about dating or anything, but sometimes they put way too much of their negative input in it and it really has a detrimental effect on it. Last summer I dated this guy who was an atheist. That alone didn't bother me or my family. But he was such an ass about it. He could say whatever awful thing he wanted to about my religion but when I even asked him questions about it, he got really defensive. I never once wanted to convert him or change him, I just wanted to know more about it and the reasons he didn't believe. It wasn't really fair. And I guess they were really getting at the fact he was such an ass to me. He called and cussed me out one night because we had been talking about it and I guess I said the wrong thing unintentionally.the main issue I had was that he was such a jerk to me, regardless of the whole religious thing. He broke up with me the first time things got rocky.
With this guy im seeing now, hes a little different. I don't know how my family is gonna feel about him. They can be a little judgmental. In past relationships I can see why though, because they were all assholes that had no respect for me. But im worried they're gonna judge him based on outward appearance. Hes really tall, has really long gorgeous hair, kinda looks like Jesus. The whole religious thing with him isn't really an issue. Hes told me he believes in god and stuff and is open minded towards it but isnt necessarily a "Christian". It makes no difference to me because Christian guys I have dated were 2 faced. But my family will probably say "you should date a Christian guy" which I don't really agree with. But maybe once they meet him and see how much he respects me, they wont worry too much about it. And i don't want to push too far. I don't want to convert him unless he wants to. I would ask him if he wants to come to church (since its right up the street from his house) but I want to make it clear that I don't want to convert him. Its not my place nor my decision. Idk I just think it would be cool if he maybe came with me just to see what its like and learn about it. Even as simple as just going with me as a couple and so he can meet the amazing people at my church. Could that be a thing? I really don't want to push too hard. I don't know if he'll see it that way. And I don't want my family to push too far either. I've told him about them and he always says they seem amazing and that he'd love to meet them. But I don't know what's going to happen. At this point in my life, I need to really make decisions that's going to make me happy. Because this does. Its the first time I haven't had to bitterly chase after someone. I don't know what to do or even hoe to go about telling them without them asking a thousand nerve wracking questions.
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