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I Spend a Lot of Time By Myself

At work I am alone out on the road driving most of the day. I normally have a tea break on my own, usually the same at lunchtime.
Sometimes I share evening dinner with friends but would be quite content eating on my own. I can happily sit watching a movie or listen to an album on my own. I am alone 80% of the time but never ever lonely, rarely bored and I am content with life.
Guess, I'm a loner then 🤔.
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ArishMell · 70-79, M
Somewhat similar to me. I have various interests and enjoy their associated social circles, but was used to working alone and being alone at home. One aspect of work was that for much of the time I was in a room in which radio reception was practically impossible, so I became used to no background music or speech. I could not have done with the constant daytime Radio Two babble-&-blether in the room next door! At home my radio is on most of the time but I am fairly discriminate in what I hear.
onlythemessenger · 70-79, M
@ArishMell Thank you for your comments.
I do not have various interests I'm afraid and really do need to socialise more than I do. However I took up learning to play the guitar and enjoy it immensely albeit somewhat a single pastime at present, maybe I could start playing in a band 🤔.
Maybe I might be a little past the pop star dream though 😂.
ArishMell · 70-79, M
I took up the drums when I was about 19. Didn't get anywhere but it was fun trying! At least the guitar is melodic, more portable and very versatile. Good luck with learning it!
onlythemessenger · 70-79, M
@ArishMell What a coincidence, I took up the guitar around the same age but lost interest after a while. I find it much more enjoyable now that I have time to learn and to play. I can manage around twenty songs all the way through start to finish.
ArishMell · 70-79, M
Well done! I did try the guitar and piano at about that age, but I don't have an ear for pitch.

The guitar was an electric one given to me by a friend as its bare woodwork, and I rebuilt it.

The piano was Mum's, and she had a wonderful Victorian tutorial book, royal crest on each page, the lot, bit it meant right from the basics of music, notation and the keyboard, upwards.

Dad built an electronic organ from a German-made kit, overcoming the problem of the instructions being in German by the aid of translation-dictionaries and his knowledge of electronics! He admitted though he was unable to pass a certain level in playing technique.
onlythemessenger · 70-79, M
@ArishMell
I wouldn't have the patience to build a guitar although I have thought about buying a kit one often to build.

Excellent history on the organ !

I use that fantastic technology youtube for learning a song, it's brilliant with people showing how to play the chords and strum patterns etc. In the old days you had to buy a song book and try to listen to the record again and again while trying to master the chords etc. Some things have changed for the better.
ArishMell · 70-79, M
@onlythemessenger

The guitar's structure was all there, but needed new bridge & finger-plate, and I made those. I bought all the strings, tuning-pegs (not sure that's their proper name) and electrical parts.

The organ is still in the family - my brother has it, but I don't know if anyone in his family plays it.

I learnt the drums from a mixture of books and playing along to the radio, which introduced me to a wide range of styles.

One of the books was dedicated to pop and rock rhythms, which were fairly complex at the time, after a chapter devoted to the half-dozen or so rhythmic building-blocks called the "rudiments", and practice in playing with feet and hands.

Another was by the big-band leader and drummer, Buddy Rich, and concentrated solely on snare-drum "rudiments" up to the level of remarkably complex rhythms with strange names like "Triple Flam Paradiddle" - that to most of the audience were probably just rippling rolls.

The first though, had been written by a strict-temp dance-band drummer, and it was very dictatorial in style. It told us for example that the "Charleston Pedal" (hi-hat) is only used to augment louder brass choruses.

The problem with learning the drums is that you need a lot of patience and dedication to master the rudiments before you can start to play full, 4-limb rhythms, and the most basic exercises are very dull and mechanical. I made a practice-pad - just glued sheet rubber to a piece of plywood - so I could do so without too much noise. At least melodic instruments offer the chance to attempt a tune fairly early!
onlythemessenger · 70-79, M
@ArishMell When I was younger I wanted to play the drums but it wasn't easy then as you say. One really needed to find a teacher and if not buy those books which did seem very time consuming to study.
Also trying to convince my parents that learning the drums wouldn't be too noisy was a losing battle. Nowadays there are lessons on line and of course the electronic sets where one can learn and bang away quietly with a set of headphones on LOL.
The guitar was a much easier choice and it's a great feeling once you master a song in it's entirety " well maybe not master " just play through completely LOL.