I Am a Sensitive Person

Its not really hate but its just ive always felt since a ling time ago that im adopted !!! We dont talk much. We dont dress like each other , eat like each other , dress like each other and we really dont have the same taste in ANYTHING !! Whatever i do its always wrong because they do it in a different and odd way and therefore im always the ugly duckling in the house !! If i ever decided to talk to them a bit about my life , my brain will always tell its a bad bad idea to do so !! They will take what ive said. And use it against me when we fight and just crush me down to earth so ive built this dark facade around my self and shed an armor so NO ONE can get inside me and as the time goes on , this dark facade ive built is consuming my humanity and making me a cold hearted bastard yet i know that im extremely fragile from in the inside !!

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KinkyIntellectual

With respect, you're 16, unless your parents are abusive, they are probably looking out for your wellbeing and not really all too concerned with your tastes. For that matter, you probably won't have the same tastes in much of anything, considering that trends from the 80's until now have been sweepingly different.

It isn't uncommon not to like your parents at your age. It isn't uncommon for them not to really be concerned with that, since their role in your life is to feed you, clothe you, keep you sheltered, and teach you how to be a contributing member of society.

I am not saying you are over reacting, but is it possible, maybe, that you are taking criticism too personally? I ask this, because I sometimes find this to be a fault of my own, and I need to take a step back and realize that something that I perceived to be an insult, or something to tear me down, was actually just something meant to help me have an easier time in life.

Years of life lessons have taught me that more often then not, those who have gone down the roads that we are following, know where the speed traps and pot holes are. That when they tell us to slow down, or switch lanes, it isn't because they think we are doing something wrong necessarily, just that, they know something dangerous is coming our way, and they don't want to see us make the same mistakes they did.

Valencia · 26-30, M

Youre completely right but after sometime u ask yourself do they really do whats best for you ? Then i come to realize that my mom takes my laptop away knowing than i cannot work unless i have it with me and she takes it away on purpose and enjoy seeing me doing complete and utter nothing !! And whenever im doing good in school she tells my relatives that im shitty ass student !! Then and only then i find the answer my soul is craving.... :)

KinkyIntellectual

Well, why did she take the lap top away? I am sure it just wasn't for the fun of it, it must have been a consequence of some behavior, right?

Does she actually say that you're a "shitty ass student" or are you paraphrasing for dramatic affect?

The thing is, that, with what you are saying one of two things is happening here. Either they are attempting to discipline you for actions that they believe are unbecoming of their son, and you are blowing things out of proportion because well, every teenager does. It's part of the brain learning to associate self-interest vs the greater good.

The other possibility, is that you are being emotionally, and psychologically abused, in which case, you may want to talk to someone about that.

KinkyIntellectual

However, if you don't feel like long drawn out hearings, and child protective services interfering in your life, I think you should really take a step outside of yourself and try to figure out what's really going on.

Valencia · 26-30, M

Thats exactly what im doing

KinkyIntellectual

Then I would suggest that if you are disciplined, pay attention to why you were. Parents often try to teach their kids about cause and affect by showing them how things affect them, because that is what gets their attention first.

However, in the heat of it all, they are still human, and often times forget to discuss how their actions affect others as well.

So, my question to you is, why did you get your lap top taken away from you?

What did your mother ACTUALLY a say when you interpreted it as her calling you a "shitty student?"

Remove the emotions from the situation, and look at it objectively. If you still can not figure it out, when your punishments are over (and it sounds like the punishment was designed to make you think about what you did by removing any distractions from doing so), sit down with them and ask calmly about why what you did was wrong.

Once again, remove emotions from the equation, do not fight, do not argue, listen, and ask questions designed to understand their perspective. If you still feel you didn't do anything wrong, then try to explain to them why you did what you did, and attempt to evaluate a compromise with them.

Valencia · 26-30, M

I asked her alot why is she taking away my laptop knowing i cannot work without it and all she gave me was because i play some music while im working and why is she calling me a shitty student with fucked up grades while all my grades are As and A+, she told me because im not studying so i showed her my books and all and they were all solved and everything, she just gave the "silent treatment" !!!

KinkyIntellectual

Then I don't know what to tell you man, sounds like an abusive situation to me and you may want to talk to a school counselor about it.

Valencia · 26-30, M

The keyword here is "talk" !! Thats why im on EP

KinkyIntellectual

Yes, but the problem is that we can't do a damn thing about it. A counselor, or someone else may be able to.

anonymousmuslimteen

Sometimes, all you need Is to let it out. Just telling someone else makes you feel better.

Valencia · 26-30, M

Exactly i already know what to do but its just too tiring to be that strong all the time