A million thoughts running through my head

Do I over value myself? Am I worthless? What the fuck am I doing? I knew the story I wanted to write a moment ago? Why's it matter? Is it time to name the reasons? Close my eyes and get the last hour of sleep? Wanted to go lay down with the wife but know I'd be made unhappy for sleeping there.

If you don't want your partner why won't you let them go?

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OlderSometimesWiser · F

I’m not understanding why you feel you have no say in the relationship and are allowing her to dictate your life.

Justafantasy · M

@OlderSometimesWiser can't afford to leave, don't want to abandon my kids. Every now and then I have a moment of hope.

Justafantasy · M

@OlderSometimesWiser as to me sleeping beside her I snore, we both wake up for every sound so neither of us manages to sleep.

OlderSometimesWiser · F

@Justafantasy You’re not doing your kids any favors by modeling a miserable relationship. Better to be from a broken home than live in one. They want to see their parents healthy and happy. As for finances, I’ve found that when someone really wants something, they find a way to make it happen. Life is so damn short and you’re wasting it.

Justafantasy · M

@OlderSometimesWiser I'm agreeing with that last statement for to long. Of our 2 kids I've got a 5 year old who not on the subject of separation but me working away said "it would be good if it makes the fighting stop". I just don't know what to do.

Justafantasy · M

@OlderSometimesWiser this post actually wasn't about my marriage. Just me as a person overall. That's just an ongoing question in my head

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Justafantasy · M

@OlderSometimesWiser stop using obvious logic on me.

OlderSometimesWiser · F

@Justafantasy Lol…… blowing smoke up people’s asses ain’t my specialty. Truth hurts but time’s a wastin. Think of your 5 year old instead of continuing to chase your tail around accomplishing nothing.

But no worries, I shall say no more. The solution lies within you and you’re more than capable of making the right decisions if you so choose.

Justafantasy · M

@OlderSometimesWiser I know you aren't wrong. Wondering why you're the only one who says it

OlderSometimesWiser · F

@Justafantasy People tend to take the path of least resistance. It’s easier to say what the other person wants to hear or just not get involved at all.

Look, I’m under no illusion that what I say is anything other than the opinion of an internet stranger. But for what it’s worth, I say it because I care. I say it because I’ve experienced so much crap in my life that if there’s anything I can do so that others make good decisions to minimize pain, maximize joy and not waste precious time, then I’m gonna do it to the extent that I’m able.