Not Being Willing to Share, and Taking "No" for an Answer

Hi everybody!
I just joined this site yesterday, and already I've had at least two people (don't worry, I won't name you) who have asked me for photos. The thing is though, I just [i]don't want to[/i], especially with [i]complete strangers[/i]. I believe in privacy, personal space, and [b]not[/b] sharing every little dirty and dark secret of mine online for all the world to see.
Am I one of the very few people on this planet who have yet to take any "selfies", because I'm just not vain enough to do so? Are people like me a dying breed in this age of constant self-promotion, narcissism and being open to the world without any dignity, self-restraint or common sense?

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TexChik · F

To an extent, yes. But this site has a problem with catfish and alt accounts, especially with the NEW accounts. We can only trust someone after we verify who they are, and that means eventually seeing you. It isn't vain or narcissistic to flash up a safe pic occasionally, but for the moment, everyone is a stranger, and you are a stranger to us. As a new member, you should take your time, interact with those who post things you like, and engage in conversations with other members until you feel safe. Block the pervs. There are no merit badges for tolerating creeps and pervs, only blocks. They aren't permanent unless you want them to be. Just do what feels right and make friends.

Cassie2083

@TexChik Yes, I can understand that, but this isn't a dating site. Correct?

TexChik · F

@Cassie2083 Absolutely not.

TruthGate

I am new here too and i am starting to lose faith in everything. Every account i come across is starting to look like a trap.. i just broke my own heart thinking Cassie here was a scammer but the truth is that i just don't know right now. This whole site is starting to make me very paranoid and the scammers are so good it is getting very difficult to tell the difference for me.

Cassie2083

@TruthGate I'm not a scammer! In fact, I'm the one who is always telling others that no, I DON'T want to see your photos, that they shouldn't provide me with [b]anything[/b] that could identify them or is in any way personal.

TruthGate

@Cassie2083 that is the sentiment behind why i haven't verified my account yet. Im not convinced that the whole site isn't just an elaborate phishing scam. I can't tell if ANY of the profiles here are real anymore. Its nothing personal.

TruthGate

@TexChik You seem like a legitamate account.. i know i don't look like a legitamate account yet but i have no idea how to remedy that at this pont. (I can't update my gender for a couple more days since i started my profile without showing that info and i don't want to verify my account yet in case this thing is some massive labyrinthine phishing scam.) I really dont want to abandon this site in the offchance that i am wrong because well... if there are genuine people here trying to keep this site human friendly.. i kinda feel like i should do my part to help.. but im really not sure if there is anything i can do at this point. I know it seems asinine to ask this question but... is there anything i can do that will help me navigate this swamp safely?