I Am a Good Listener

I love listening to people I care of and I'm pretty able to put on their shoes and let them express their worries and say to them some encouragement...but I sometimes with specific people I care, don't feel myself listened. I don't use to do the things waiting for something in return but I think that if someone is your friend and cares of you, there must be a little reciprocity. Am I being so much paranoical? Bc things like that makes me doubt about the honesty of the friendship.

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JollyRoger · 70-79, M

Hi Twister...
I'm new here and surfing around just checking out personalities I like:

To answer your question - No, a relationship is built on reciprocity; it isn't necessarily tit-for-tat, but if the people you care about consistently don't share a concern for your needs (just listening to you and considering your needs), then I think they are either: too distracted with their own problems and just can't give you their attention because they need to focus on their own problem(s), or: they are just plain selfish and place their issues / life activities as being more important than yours.
I think you can figure out if you are really helping them or if they are just making conversation about themselves. Bless you though for trying, and for not burning yourself out trying. This shows your intellect and wisdom - which makes you a valuable person to know whether your particular 'friends' realize it or not.