I think people underestimate how unhealthy frequent venting can be.

I think venting is fine actually, but what you're talking about is probably when people dwell on negativity and how continuously reminding oneself by venting reinforces it, which I agree with. It's mainly when people receive attention for stuff like "I just woke up and I hate my life" that it's out of control. I call them sympathy-chasers.

When I feel bad emotions I try to make myself feel better by thinking about stuff that puts me in a good mood, and when I feel down I sometimes watch comedy because the act of laughing in itself makes one feel better. The people who vent endlessly obviously put no effort into their happiness, and they think the rest of us are just happy all the time because we were lucky to be born that way. 😸

My dude. You are right in the sense that dwelling can be destructive.

But it is not the same as venting.

Gratitude works not because you give shape to feelings. It works because you are sort of closing a loop. It is the resolution at the end of it.

Venting can work the same if there is structure and a resolution.

i dont know
i want people to vent
but i dont want them to over-vent and tell exagerations and un truths and half truths.

I'm here for the nudes.