The reason i dont make friends easy.

If there's a 1 in 100% chance of being born gender diverse
then few people have actually had the chance to really get to know a gender diverse person.
For someone like you, with Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome (AIS), the ratio is 1 in 20,000.
There is no doubt that gender normal people [i]cannot[/i] know what it feels like to experience being you.
Most of us try to relate to others though the screen of our own experience - so having empathy for something totally outside our experience can be difficult for many.

Films and novels about transitions do help to educate many, but people who are averse to change might not watch or read them.
This is true about anything new or unusual; it invokes (for many) uncomfortable cognitive dissonance.

As I'm sure you would be aware, mass social attitudes are usually very slow to change.
The only option is to understand their difficulties -- try to have as much empathy for them as you would hope to receive from them.

Our sex, gender and identity are only a part of who we are.
We are also the products of our habits and idiosyncracies, family and cultural histories, physical form, education, work and roles, beliefs, values, hobbies and social circles.

To be intersex or trans used to be far harder than it is now - and you live in one of the most tolerant cities in the world (even though there are still plenty of conservatives there.)



Try to surround yourself with people similar to yourself or at least open-minded. Having a social support group can make life so much easier.

I've been acquainted with 8 trans people, all male to female.
None were born physically intersex, but each had deep internal issues that made transition the only option for happiness.
Each had a totally different life story and mode of self expression. Each, during transition, had to face profound issues over a long period of time.

I'm in and out of here erratically, but if you wish, I'd be happy to get to know you.

You know what Chelsie..i think..i have a clue, a hint, and that is, it doesn't have to do much with the fact that you are however you are...i mean i am however I am, and so many others, and we are all living a life without many friends. And for each one of us there are reasons for sure, but also there's this more general reason I am trying to see from some distance... My dad for example, had an argument with his only friend in his 60's. Another older friend had explained to me how in her 30 sth she was left alone from her friends. I decided to live according to my values and I lost everyone.. But then, we move on and we meet someone that is excited to share with us and travel along life for a while... maybe friendships, just like partnerships, are like that, some come and go, for some they stay forever, some are more lonely than others.. I hope you will soon find someone to share the ride ❤️

How sad that people can’t accept others just because they are different