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RunTheJulz · 46-50, F
@Elessar I think it’s like that all over in some age groups and subsets of people. I know I’ve been told by potential partners that they believe they can tell a lot about someone from their Instagram. I kinda feel like it’s a good thing to know that someone is like that in the beginning and not after you’ve been with them for months. Idk it’s kinda sad and weird and it’s a sign that all they might be interested in is appearances.
Elessar · 26-30, M
@RunTheJulz It's worse, I think, it's vanity (from the perspective of the poster) and pre-selection bias (from the perspective of who accounts how many likes a potential partner's selfie has when matching): rather than "wasting time" in getting to know someone, you rely on how popular they're on socials. This gets normalized and people work towards boosting their "social score", creating a feedback loop
All those mass social media platforms do more harm than good. Back in the days I used to think this position was purely dictated by rejection of modernity/change, but in hindsight I was completely wrong.
All those mass social media platforms do more harm than good. Back in the days I used to think this position was purely dictated by rejection of modernity/change, but in hindsight I was completely wrong.
RunTheJulz · 46-50, F
@being That’s an off putting habit. I assume that you didn’t date much longer before you decided to “shoot the messenger” so to speak lol (dorky joke I know 🤪)
RunTheJulz · 46-50, F
@Elessar
I didn’t think about it much until I started seeing a competitive an unhealthy trend in my friend group of people basically “sharing and shaming”. It started with stuff like buying their first house to sharing stuff that seemed to put other people down who had yet to reach a certain stage. Be that marriage or motherhood or how many children they felt like everyone else should have too. I think it’s important to understand that life’s not a competition and tearing people down shouldn’t be the goal of your online life. Anyway I know that it’s something that lots of people do but it’s the malicious intent that I believe is causing the most problems.
All those mass social media platforms do more harm than good
I fully agree!! I didn’t think about it much until I started seeing a competitive an unhealthy trend in my friend group of people basically “sharing and shaming”. It started with stuff like buying their first house to sharing stuff that seemed to put other people down who had yet to reach a certain stage. Be that marriage or motherhood or how many children they felt like everyone else should have too. I think it’s important to understand that life’s not a competition and tearing people down shouldn’t be the goal of your online life. Anyway I know that it’s something that lots of people do but it’s the malicious intent that I believe is causing the most problems.