Upbringings
What was a pivotal moment in your childhood that has shaped who you are today.
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WhateverWorks · 36-40
Being around 9 or 10 learning how to meditate in the woods with my friend. Meditation was a huge part of getting through my otherwise abusive childhood.
Adwoa · 22-25, F
@WhateverWorks I’m glad to were able to find a positive way to cope with an abusive childhood. Did the abuse you face ever affect you when it came to forming relationships or did you heal from it that it didn’t effect you at all.
WhateverWorks · 36-40
@Adwoa tricky to answer that. In some ways I was able to do things differently, better, like I learned very young to never allow myself to be entrapped in dependence, but on an unconscious level I found myself still playing out that childhood/parental role model trauma.
Took a lot of inner work in terms of self esteem, self-respect, self-compassion; learning to not rationalize, allowing the unhealthy relationships/patterns going on in my life to continue, learning what healthy boundaries looked like then how to actually stick to them and how to let go of the people who wouldn’t respect my boundaries, learning healthy communication and conflict resolution skills; and developing a healthier concept of ‘love’/relationships.
Long road, but now I’m in a very happy, healthy relationship 🥰
Took a lot of inner work in terms of self esteem, self-respect, self-compassion; learning to not rationalize, allowing the unhealthy relationships/patterns going on in my life to continue, learning what healthy boundaries looked like then how to actually stick to them and how to let go of the people who wouldn’t respect my boundaries, learning healthy communication and conflict resolution skills; and developing a healthier concept of ‘love’/relationships.
Long road, but now I’m in a very happy, healthy relationship 🥰