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Raised by my mum and dad until he died when I was 8, that had a huge impact on my life, I have 3 older brothers, who have been a great influence on me, good men with good hearts, I had a great childhood considering.
Also my grandma who I was extremely close to, both my grandfathers died before I was 6 months old, I didn’t have many father figure roles.
My mum wasn’t really there emotionally after he passed away, which left me with deeper issues, i don’t blame her though and understand she went through an awful time, I didn’t know all this until the past few years after dealing with my marriage issues, looking at myself and why I seem to end up with abusive men.
My own self worth wasn’t great, I wasn’t good at setting boundaries and ignored red flags.
Being a people pleaser, I’ve learnt I need to stop putting myself last while seeing to everyone else’s needs.
I wouldn’t change it, I feel I’m stronger, healing from it all.
So I’m happy it all happened the way it did. 🥰
Also my grandma who I was extremely close to, both my grandfathers died before I was 6 months old, I didn’t have many father figure roles.
My mum wasn’t really there emotionally after he passed away, which left me with deeper issues, i don’t blame her though and understand she went through an awful time, I didn’t know all this until the past few years after dealing with my marriage issues, looking at myself and why I seem to end up with abusive men.
My own self worth wasn’t great, I wasn’t good at setting boundaries and ignored red flags.
Being a people pleaser, I’ve learnt I need to stop putting myself last while seeing to everyone else’s needs.
I wouldn’t change it, I feel I’m stronger, healing from it all.
So I’m happy it all happened the way it did. 🥰
