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Is it normal to hit a child for refusing to eat or finish food?

During my childhood I spent a significant periods of time living in China with my paternal grandmother who didn't like my mother due to race and often limited contact. When times were good Mama could have then rudimentary webcam contact. B/c in China you go to school until the evening I would come home and almost immediately Mama would be calling to see and talk to her children. I would be talking to my mother and my Chinese Grandmother would put food and tea in front of me trying to make me eat. B/c of food allergies I always ate poorly and after a few bites would say I was done and give back the dishes. My Chinese Grandmother would push the dishes back in front of me and demand in Chinese that I finish the food and when I didn't she would be holding up her hand threatening to hit me and my mother would be like "don't hit my child!" like it was unusual to hit a disobedient child. Now my 1 year old son when he refuses to eat I threaten to smack him and Mama is still like "What the hell is wrong with you?! You don't hit kids for not eating!!"

But that's how I was raised....
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TexChik · F
Nope , hitting a child for something like that reflects the ignorance of the parent. There were a few times I didnt eat something I had told my mother I wanted. I saw it the next meal on my plate waiting for me to eat it, or I could do with out. Lesson learned, but they did not hit me.
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
@TexChik I stopped eating pork when I was 12 and my aunt said if I didn’t eat that pork chop for dinner I couldn’t have anything else and it would be my breakfast. After I skipped a few meals she decided not to do that again and I haven’t eaten it since. I guess she knew I was serious about it if I could go without eating .
TexChik · F
@cherokeepatti I had asked Mom to make me something and she went to the trouble and expense, but when it came time to eat it...it just didnt seem good to me. Upsetting mom wasnt easy and it was never good once I had done it. Daddy, a retired marine officer, chuckled and said "you're on your own kid" . What I didnt eat the dog got when she wasnt looking.