I Think Children Should Be Able To Enjoy Their Childhood

Yes there is too much pressure on them today.

Yes, I agree. Raising a family is hard but worth it. Also married with kids.

She is thoughtful and kind. I think that she will have a great life.

Unlike say 40 yrs ago ,the world is growing colder and harder
and I feel today parents that are not making their kids see this reality
do them a disservice .
We all want to shield our kids .
But today if they are unaware ,they will be run over .
I have raised or helped raise 10 kids ,all of them are different.
2 are special needs ,and we push them to be self reliant as much as possible too
We are a close family ,and everyone helps everyone and my kids and grandkids make me so proud .(they are also quick to help others )
We have 2 teens not of our family we helped get diploma's (it was 3 we finally got one through high school and off to the Army ,he has a chance at a career )
The rest that also just graduated ,now we are pushing them to get jobs ,hopefully a place of their own soon .
Their parents never pushed them to do anything .
They liked being around our teens ,so we asked "What are you're plans now that you dropped out of school "?
They won't let them have a licence ,no one will hire them .
So they finally got it ,a diploma was a wise choice .
So my family supported them and they went back to school and we got them into programs that helped them get caught up ,a lot of on line classes .
But I think people who give their kids an unreal perception of reality
do them a real disservice ,,the world is more competitive ,its colder then in the past ,and even college grads have trouble finding jobs .
We have enough over confident and self absorbed kids .
When they become adults they need to be ready for the task ,and any edge we can give them makes the transition easier .in my opinion ,it really is for their own good ,,I know parents hate when I say this ,but sometimes love has to be tough .

I just like to point out that the leisurely stroll to adulthood paradigm for child care is a relatively new concept in history of humankind, not even a hundred years old yet. Before that time you were expected to actually participate in your household and in maintaining it. There were chores, jobs to be done. Lives depended on it. They still do to this day, we've chosen for some reason to remove the imperative of our children to participate in their future and the building of it.

As Mr. Fredrickson said in "Up"...excuse me...old man coming through...
I can drone on about how my mom would say "go out and play" and you did just that - then come back at supper time (remember that?). It was a different time to be sure and socio-economic conditions allowed for it (my mom didn't work, it was seemingly safer, etc). For every parent who wants their kid to be "a kid", there's the one's who want them to be their best friend - give them a phone, give them a SC page, be this little version of them, etc. There's more single parents now, the list goes on and on. Hopefully your daughter will look back and see that you did your best!!! :)

You are absolutely right!
Just let her choose her friends!
And it will be good that you should know her friends too!
When parents are involved in friendship, then it is more strong and secured!

I think it just depends on the child an even somewhat the parent but mostly the child but I do appreaciate u being this concerned about your daughter shows your a good mother not all moms are like this