I Am Afraid That I'll End Up Alone

I'm 30 years old and i'm single for 2 years now....... I am someone who has a very low self esteem and that's why i'm really really afraid that i'm going to end up alone. I'm the kind of guy who's just too nice and always ends up being the friend or getting stepped on and used. I can't talk to girls in a bar or something like that, because i'm scared to death i'm going to be shot down or that they ridicule me. I've only started dating when i was 21 and I've had like 3 girlfriends ever. And they all were in my class. But anyway, that was pretty much my story....

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PerpetualDreamers

I have a few girl friends that were models and look absolutely unapproachable, and I have never seen them reject a guy once regardless of their looks, wallet size, corny pickup lines, or personality. Had half the guys been too scared to ask, they would've ended up at home with the lotion bottle in their hand imagining what it would've been. If you don't ask, you end up at home alone. If they say no, you'd end up at home alone, so what have you got to lose?

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PerpetualDreamers

We have all felt that way at one point or another, and have learned to understand it and overcome it. It seems like you are letting your fear take control of your life, and that is no way to live.

Since this fear has such a strong grasp on your life, perhaps the question you need to ask yourself is what do you fear more? Never finding love because of the possibility of rejection, or living alone for the rest of your life? If you fear the latter more, which you should, then I let your fear take over to do something about it.

You can have it work for you, or have it work against you. Whichever you decide is up to you.

Crazycoral84 · 36-40, M

I am actually in therapy about the fear and anxiety that i'm having. It's just very hard to break through, when i'm about to walk up to someone it feels like i'm walking against a wall halfway. And i just can't seem to go through it yet. It's very hard to explain it exactly..... But thank you for the nice reply:D

PerpetualDreamers

I'm glad to hear you're doing something about it. Good luck.

3mccann

You are still young. Involve yourself in a meet up group that sounds iinteresting. He will show up. Then take it SLOW.

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