I can survive. I can think. I can choose. I can apply. I can become.
That's basically what solitude means to me.
A big reason I don’t relate to loneliness the same way as other people is that as a child, solitude wasn’t emptiness for me, it was a chance for survival.
I learned early on to use being alone to heal, rebuild, think, and decide, and I learnt to use it quickly before the next strike happens..so over time solitude became a place of agency, clarity, and peace rather than abandonment..and abandonment took shape in the space of otherness. The space that had to be shared..the space that demanded shared accountability.
I can connect to most people without the dependency that takes roots in not being able to sit with oneself..alone. And it does give me an advantage in lot of contexts. You can only isolate a person who needs to be with people to build a sense of self.
Sometimes I do forget these blessings. Other times I am reminded of them when I see victims who lose everything trying to belong to a world that's not worth it anyways.
A big reason I don’t relate to loneliness the same way as other people is that as a child, solitude wasn’t emptiness for me, it was a chance for survival.
I learned early on to use being alone to heal, rebuild, think, and decide, and I learnt to use it quickly before the next strike happens..so over time solitude became a place of agency, clarity, and peace rather than abandonment..and abandonment took shape in the space of otherness. The space that had to be shared..the space that demanded shared accountability.
I can connect to most people without the dependency that takes roots in not being able to sit with oneself..alone. And it does give me an advantage in lot of contexts. You can only isolate a person who needs to be with people to build a sense of self.
Sometimes I do forget these blessings. Other times I am reminded of them when I see victims who lose everything trying to belong to a world that's not worth it anyways.
