There's no such thing as "finding yourself", as much as there is creating what we want in our lives, that will benefit us for the best outcome.

@SilentObZerver I think that's the million-dollar question isn't it? I don't think any of us really know "who we are", but we are given a blank slate. God has given us the gift of life. It didn't come with instructions. What we do with it, is up to us, and is our gift back to God.

@SilentObZerver How we are measured in life! is a subjective and multifaceted concept. I don't think Who We Are, is as important as what we say and do. How we treat others. Our motives. Because what good is knowing who you are, if you've never done anything good for anyone else nor put it to good use? Here are some things to ponder.

1. Relationships: The quality of our connections with others, the love we share, and the memories we create.
2. Personal growth: Our self-awareness, emotional intelligence, resilience, and progress towards our goals.
3. Impact: The positive difference we make in the world, the lives we touch, and the legacy we leave.
4. Character: Our values, integrity, compassion, empathy, and kindness.
5. Authenticity: How true we are to ourselves, our passions, and our purpose.
6. Gratitude and appreciation: Our ability to find joy, contentment, and beauty in life's moments.
7. Learning and progress: Our willingness to learn, adapt, and evolve.
8. Love and kindness: The love we give, receive, and share, and the kindness we show to ourselves and others.
9. Resilience and perseverance: Our ability to face challenges, overcome obstacles, and keep moving forward.
10. Our values and priorities: How we align our actions and choices with what truly matters to us.

Remember, these are not universal measures, and what matters most will vary from person to person. Ultimately, it's the love, laughter, and moments that make life rich and fulfilling.

@LadyGrace know the "self" can help you work on what you do....

@SilentObZerver

I think we already know our capabilities and our weaknesses. We're already aware. We're here to learn and grow, and that's the only way we can do it, by trial and error and making mistakes, which are not the problem, but a gift from God to make us aware of where we need Improvement, and when something needs to be changed in our lives, so that we can be happier. We already have the tools in our toolbox hahaha it's up to us to discover them and use them to our advantage. Some get lazy and don't want to use them.

@SilentObZerver I think we already know self. By that, I mean we already know what we want and what we like and what we don't like. We can go from there. It's up to fill our lives.

@LadyGrace many dont know their weaknesses and strengths

@SilentObZerver I think many don't want to know nor recognize them. I think a person is very much aware of what they lack...or not.

@SilentObZerver If some don't know their strengths and weaknesses, there are plenty of self-help books out there to help them get a start if they don't have a clue. These are great therapeutic helps and I've used them myself. There are also free videos on topics we feel we need help with. Or we can talk to friends or a therapist. I turn in my Bible for answers and it has never let me down. Not even once. It has all the answers to the questions of life.

@LadyGrace are you aware of what you lack?

@SilentObZerver The concept of "finding oneself" implies that we need to be "fixed", or think we're flawed or broken, or that there's a fixed, static entity to be discovered. But, what if we're not static beings? What if we're constantly evolving, growing, and changing? We are! I can't tell you how many times I have readjusted and created the environment I have wanted, when it was necessary, and I have never been let down.

I think it's more accurate to say that we're constantly creating and recreating ourselves. Our experiences, choices, and relationships shape us, and we adapt and evolve over time. This perspective empowers us to take an active role in shaping who we are and who we want to become. It's a journey, not a destination.

There's no fixed "self" to find. Instead, we're dynamic, ever-changing individuals, constantly creating and recreating our own unique lives.

@LadyGrace interesting

@SilentObZerver Oh yes!! Knowing ourselves is not the same as finding ourselves. We know what we want. We're not stupid. haha We DO know right from wrong.

And yes, I'm very aware of my weaknesses and what I need to do to improve and I work on myself each day to be a better version of myself. It's not a burden, but something I like to do, to improve my life.

@LadyGrace hmm

@SilentObZerver

We do know right from wrong, so there you are! You've got the key! Ask yourself would this enhance my life and make it better or would it make things more miserable for myself? You'll know the answer because you know the difference between right and wrong. We complicate things for our own selves, by making things more complicated than they have to be. Haha

@LadyGrace are you sure you know the difference?

@SilentObZerver

But of course! It is already built into our conscience, the difference between right and wrong. This is how God made us conscious of himself. How do you feel when you do something wrong and you know it was wrong even though you don't want to admit it? You feel ANY guilt. If you didn't have a consciousness of God and the knowledge of right and wrong, there would be no reason to feel guilt. It's there for good reason. To help us, not to hurt us. To help us Learn and Grow. When we know better, we do better! But fight that, and it will stay with you until you get it resolved! There's no such thing as sweeping it under the rug because it will always be there, even if you can't see it.

@LadyGrace who or what determines whether something is wrong or right?

@SilentObZerver

We already have that ability to know the answer to that. Our conscious won't leave us alone when we do wrong. Now some people can harden their heart so hard against their conscience, and force themselves to deny their feelings. That's where you get serial killers and such. Narcissists.

@LadyGrace still not answered though

@SilentObZerver

This leads us to the very first day of creation of Adam and Eve. We know the same thing they did, the difference between right and wrong and guess what. When we know to do right but deliberately do wrong, guess what that's called. It's called sin, and all sin... no matter how great or small, Keeps Us Separated from God, until we repent and ask God to forgive us, which He willingly does, and promises to do so.

@SilentObZerver I did.

@SilentObZerver God gave us the knowledge of knowing the difference between right and wrong, so He said we will have no excuse when we stand before Him on judgment day, for our deliberate sinning.

@LadyGrace okay

@SilentObZerver

We also have the Bible, which tells us the difference between right and wrong. So we'll have no excuse before God, that we didn't know. God knows our hearts. We can never fool him.

@LadyGrace interesting!