How does one let go of disappointments, expectations, and live/love in the now?
I think happiness might be tied up in this...
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It is difficult.
And those rose tinted glasses on the past get ever bigger lenses the older you get i think.
But it is nonetheless a sad never ending predicable cycle of sadnes if you keep thinking the best was then when there's still so much more out there you just haven't found yet.
Speaking personally, i am a complete cynic when it comes to the idea of love and romance and all that jazz. And have occupied that position for....a long time.
And I thought that was the position where I felt 'safe'.
I mean if you don't get involved you can't get hurt right ?
And then following a completely random conversation with a colleague at work, half my age, whom I've nothing in common with, i make the daft decision to go to a dance class.
Just to watch and see if I could follow the instructions.
...well, I sat and watched (from a safe distance) as these two instructors did their stuff with the dozen or so 'pupils' and thought....this is good !
Everyone was laughing. Feet were getting stepped on. Some were trying to follow the steps on the dance floor while their partners were trying to follow a different pattern of steps...whether they were there or imagined, lots of apologies and eventually it just deteriorated to the point where laughter filled the room while some daft song was playing in the background and everyone just sat down and chatted !
There's more to this story and im still trying to get it straight in my head before posting it as an experience but the point is I would never have seen or witnessed or spoken to any of these equally wacky people if i hadn't taken the random advice from a kid half my age to go somewhere completely out of my comfort zone to do something that scared me to death at the time.
And those rose tinted glasses on the past get ever bigger lenses the older you get i think.
But it is nonetheless a sad never ending predicable cycle of sadnes if you keep thinking the best was then when there's still so much more out there you just haven't found yet.
Speaking personally, i am a complete cynic when it comes to the idea of love and romance and all that jazz. And have occupied that position for....a long time.
And I thought that was the position where I felt 'safe'.
I mean if you don't get involved you can't get hurt right ?
And then following a completely random conversation with a colleague at work, half my age, whom I've nothing in common with, i make the daft decision to go to a dance class.
Just to watch and see if I could follow the instructions.
...well, I sat and watched (from a safe distance) as these two instructors did their stuff with the dozen or so 'pupils' and thought....this is good !
Everyone was laughing. Feet were getting stepped on. Some were trying to follow the steps on the dance floor while their partners were trying to follow a different pattern of steps...whether they were there or imagined, lots of apologies and eventually it just deteriorated to the point where laughter filled the room while some daft song was playing in the background and everyone just sat down and chatted !
There's more to this story and im still trying to get it straight in my head before posting it as an experience but the point is I would never have seen or witnessed or spoken to any of these equally wacky people if i hadn't taken the random advice from a kid half my age to go somewhere completely out of my comfort zone to do something that scared me to death at the time.