How does one let go of disappointments, expectations, and live/love in the now?
I think happiness might be tied up in this...
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Miram · 31-35, F
It takes a great deal of practice and introspection.
Starting with detachement from the ego. Expectations are related to how we draw self-value and attach to outcomes.
1-Maybe start with few excercises to recognize your own observer mind during mindful meditations looking at your own thinking patterns. The observer mind doesn't do the thinking and the feeling, it looks at thoughts and feelings without judgements. Do this for as long as possible, every day for 5 minutes. And try to experience compassion towards yourself and then not act on any of the thoughts and feelings. Even when your mind wanders away, observe that too. This teaches the power of inaction. It teaches to be free too.
2- When you have had enough power from that independence, actively change the course of thoughts you believe are against your contentment. Make conscious choices. Much of our thoughts are on autopilot because we built comfort from their familiarity for years. They don't have to be that way.
Contentment is more realistic of a goal than happiness when it comes to mindfulness activities. You want to be content with the changing nature of existence from happy to sad, from love to hatred..etc
You can also try exploring hinduism, Japanese philosophy and Shaolin Buddhism for answers that suit your own individual thoughts. There are so many works even in greek philosophy relating to resilience and contentment.
Personally my inability to live in the now was strongly related to my inability to accept my loved ones finite time alive or in my life, so I had to process much grief and learn how to make peace with that. Which is also related to imperfections. Here is a piece I have written inspired by Japanese philosophy
The scab in the wounds you left is gold to me. Just like a kintsugi master, I carefully piece together the fragments. Each shard narrates a tale of past moments. And together they mirror the transient nature of all there is.
I will honor all my scars; markers of endless possibilities not of loss.
I will cherish healing as the embracing our imperfections and the imperfection of life.
I will value the broken, as it transforms into something far more precious and valuable.
I will embrace impermanence, from which true strength emerges.
You probably heard of kintsugi before. It helps to explore the depth behind works and attempt to apply it in your own life.
Starting with detachement from the ego. Expectations are related to how we draw self-value and attach to outcomes.
1-Maybe start with few excercises to recognize your own observer mind during mindful meditations looking at your own thinking patterns. The observer mind doesn't do the thinking and the feeling, it looks at thoughts and feelings without judgements. Do this for as long as possible, every day for 5 minutes. And try to experience compassion towards yourself and then not act on any of the thoughts and feelings. Even when your mind wanders away, observe that too. This teaches the power of inaction. It teaches to be free too.
2- When you have had enough power from that independence, actively change the course of thoughts you believe are against your contentment. Make conscious choices. Much of our thoughts are on autopilot because we built comfort from their familiarity for years. They don't have to be that way.
Contentment is more realistic of a goal than happiness when it comes to mindfulness activities. You want to be content with the changing nature of existence from happy to sad, from love to hatred..etc
You can also try exploring hinduism, Japanese philosophy and Shaolin Buddhism for answers that suit your own individual thoughts. There are so many works even in greek philosophy relating to resilience and contentment.
Personally my inability to live in the now was strongly related to my inability to accept my loved ones finite time alive or in my life, so I had to process much grief and learn how to make peace with that. Which is also related to imperfections. Here is a piece I have written inspired by Japanese philosophy
The scab in the wounds you left is gold to me. Just like a kintsugi master, I carefully piece together the fragments. Each shard narrates a tale of past moments. And together they mirror the transient nature of all there is.
I will honor all my scars; markers of endless possibilities not of loss.
I will cherish healing as the embracing our imperfections and the imperfection of life.
I will value the broken, as it transforms into something far more precious and valuable.
I will embrace impermanence, from which true strength emerges.
You probably heard of kintsugi before. It helps to explore the depth behind works and attempt to apply it in your own life.