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The reason why I am still single and will stay that way

I’m not anyone’s first choice or last choice or anyone’s favourite person people might tell me that I mean a lot to them but they will always choose someone over me and I’m fine with that it made me love myself people might call it toxic but I call it self love
YukiSohma · 26-30, F
A part of me wants to just stay how I am, without a person really. And the grass is always greener, I also don't know if I'd be better off with most people that I might settle for. I'd probably more likely have someone as such if I put myself out there more and wasn't such an introvert and demiromantic/demisexual. The reason I do is I feel it might be better for my wellbeing and in the long term, but that also won't be enough benefit if it's a bad match or person and all the negatives that follow maybe. The lack of physical touch, intimacy (especially physical), and sexual interaction. The romance part can technically be had over online is why it wasn't mentioned as well as a close connection in general. Everything I've ever seen says such things are beneficial and good for health long term. It's also that I want such things and long for them. A part of it is that I've been letting myself feel lonely more recently in part because of recent happenings, which I don't do often so it's a bit striking.

Everyone is different though, I doubt everyone has the same cravings for physical touch and such or at the same level. And you can get such interactions without being with someone too, like hookups or cuddle buddies. I've never done hookups, I'd probably rather have a cuddle buddy. Anyway, I was trying to say, you do you and don't let anyone tell you there's anything wrong with being single. It's not like we are struggling to survive as a species or anything, there's plenty of us. If anything less of us would probably be better for the planet, ecosystems and humanity itself. Don't settle for being a second, third, or later choice after the fact. Love yourself, because we can't expect anyone else too.
Dayman343 · M
I get everything you say. After many failed relationships I totally understand your point of view. I'm married now but it is lacking and so if I find myself on my own again, I will stay that way.

 
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