Being unconventionally pretty sucks

People tell me I am pretty… I do not think this, as I get mixed reviews. Even the people who tell me I’m pretty say even though I have a “unique look” or they don’t like mainstream beauty anyway.!

Which being told that, makes me second guess myself. I don’t mind the way I look, and I don’t think I’m ugly. I see myself as average. I think it’s because I don’t see people who “look like me”. Like my ethnic features (I do not fit eastern European beauty standards).

This has left me with very poor self esteem. I think it goes back to my issue with compliments that make it still seem like there is something wrong with me. Like my small boobs “still” being attractive. I’m “pretty” even though I’m “unique”. Why can’t I just be pretty? It’s sad feeling like an “other”. Being reminded that my features aren’t what’s considered pretty by most people.

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huskyguy89 · 31-35, M

Honestly I think you're pretty. As far as like calling it "unconventionally pretty" I think people wanna describe you as more than just "pretty" and have a hard time finding words for it. People I feel like if they don't give a decent description, someone might doubt their sincerity. So saying you're "unique" sounds better than something shallow, maybe? But I say ya have nothing to second guess. For whatever that may be worth. :) As long as you enjoy yourself and the way you look, that's all that matters right? (I do realize hearing it from other people is definitely a nice thing though.) It's also the vibes or how ya treat people that make the difference.

MorbidCynic · F

@huskyguy89 I’ll admit, I think it’s the fact that I have other mental issues and an eating disorder that may make it worse for me to hear. I overthink things, especially when it comes to my physical appearance. That’s why I warn people to NEVER mention my weight. Even a compliments will make me want to starve myself 😅