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Is emotional, mental and verbal abuse enough to get me away from this man and into a domestic violence shelter? I think he's trying to push me to the point of ending my life and I'm trying really hard to stay in a positive mindset. Currently going through postpartum depression and he adds on the stress knowing that he doesn't allow me to take my meds and push me to my breaking point. Expects me to do for him and the baby and i literally no energy or anything left for myself. I literally don't even eat during the day because my appetite completely leaves due to me being stressed. I keep my mouth shut and he takes advantage then i reach my breaking point and he calls me crazy, says everything is my fault including him not being able to see him other children. Even though i have no contact with them or their mom.I've been doing really well lately controlling my emotions and he's becoming more and more abusive lately. Talking to me with no respect, keeping me isolated from my family, cursing me out when I go to the store with him sleeping, don't want me to go anywhere with the baby, wants me to not work and completely depend on him and then neglect me and my child, don't allow me to take my medicine or get any time for myself, trying to force me to take birth control and if I don't he completely ignores my needs( affection, quality time, comfort), my love language and being physical and he will not even come near me on purpose, had me lie to important people to avoid paying child support, told me if I didn't live with him he wouldn't do anything for her at all and wont claim her. I just want to know if this is enough to get me out of here. He does a lot of other illegal things to avoid child support and irs as well.
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Carlisle · F
Also
Get evidence
Evidence of his breaking the law
Evidence of the abuse
And maybe some witnesses who saw what happened
If you are in America
If you in the UK it’s a lot better. You can ring a refuge for domestic violence and get to safety the same day with your child.
Fantasyproject · 26-30, F
@Carlisle I have texts of him saying he's working and pictures of the work he did. I know the name of his business and what cards the money goes on. I know he lied to dss all year to continue getting foodstamps and unemployment. Is that enough? Because he started a side business basically but literally can make over $1,000/day. My mom, step-dad and aunt is a witness he put his hands on me but that wasn't recent so it probably doesn't count. I have messages of me telling him the baby needs things and also me arguing that he doesn't buy any. Also a text of him basically saying just because he's put on child support doesn't mean he has to pay it. Neglecting to pay taxes, report that you're working to the irs, child support and dss, driving with a restricted license and trying to get someone else to buy a vehicle in their name so he can keep it and avoid getting stopped by the police. Are these things illegal enough to put him arrested? Like I don't wanna have to deal with him sending people here and I have to fight in front of my daughter. Her life was threatened by someone in his life already
Carlisle · F
@Fantasyproject we have a citizens Advise centre here in the uk
Do you have anything similar there?
You may want to talk to someone get some legal advise
Also talk to your doctor about your post partial depression.
When I had depression (which isn’t the same I know) it made me feel and see things so much differently. I felt really low and the workd seemed grey and I always felt really anxious and always scared that something bad was going to happen.
Get some medical advice
Legal advice
And general domestic violence advice about what support you can get for you and your child.
Hope this helps and please update us.
Fantasyproject · 26-30, F
@Carlisle I called and they said I can do intake with just my ID. So I just have to get my baby's stuff out of here while he's at work
Carlisle · F
@Fantasyproject this is great news! New safe and happy life for you and your child. All the best.
Final tip
Build a good support network of friends, family and service members who you can rely on for support. It makes such a difference to have.