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canusernamebemyusername I can help with you this. I see the problem lol "Not where you should be." It's this type of talk that's damaging your confidence. We are often taught by society or through comparing our lives with others that we should follow a particular life, we should gain success, wealth material possessions, home, marriage by a certain age. But the truth is, we have our own paces in life. We do things in our own time and that's okay and not everyone really and truly wants that life but it's what's normal to strive for. I mean why follow the crowd? I think we are all where we are in life because we need to be there, to learn something and grow, where the next person is in life shouldn't effect you because you are working on where you want to be at different paces. There's also the question of, if you got to where other people are right now, would you truly be happy? I don't think it would. Its good to remind ourself is that happiness isn't a place, or ideal or standard you set for yourself and think if I was just there... I would be happy but it must come from the inside. Why do you think there's tons of successful people who have had melt downs, horrible depressions and addictions... despite having the life most aspire to? Because they aren't happy within... so what I would think is to really look within and what can make you truly happy right now... that you already have, some thing non material, something you're passionate about, work on building that and nurturing yourself. Its also important to note that times have changing and the lifestyle or life trajectory that was isnt applicable to the newer generations. We can pursue our interests now and be creative and have the freedom to live differently whereas in the past it was all about living for security. Hope this helps. Sometimes what the culture can tell us is harmful. Follow your own path
