What are some good ways to build confidence as an adult?
Specifically, how to stop assuming everyone is somehow better than you and has their stuff together more than you do, even if there is no basis for those thoughts?
I have definitely struggled with confidence issues since I was a teen and it is frustrating and disappointing for me that I'm nearly 30 now and still dealing with these issues, even if I've improved over the years. I also unfortunately come off unconfident according to others, and confidence is not something that is easy for me to fake, especially in the sort of cocky way a lot of people do (that is just completely unnatural feeling for me and I don't want to overdo it or act arrogant at all).
For those who can (or used to) relate, what have you done that has helped you get past this? I admittedly let stupid things people have said to/about me in my past still rent space in my head and am trying hard to not put stock into that, especially since most of it was completely untrue and came from unreliable sources, but it's quite a battle. I also unfortunately allow every dumb mistake or embarrassing thing I've said/done rent space in my head, though I know I need to accept that I've learned from it and am better now and move on. I also struggle with negative self talk and have for years, though I've started really getting onto myself about that recently. Is there anything you've found if you've struggled with these issues that has helped set you on the right track and away from these intrusive thoughts? I've been trying to "correct" them in my head, like by telling myself that I'm a human being that makes mistakes and that I've learned from them and do better now, so I don't need to beat myself up over them.
Thanks!
I have definitely struggled with confidence issues since I was a teen and it is frustrating and disappointing for me that I'm nearly 30 now and still dealing with these issues, even if I've improved over the years. I also unfortunately come off unconfident according to others, and confidence is not something that is easy for me to fake, especially in the sort of cocky way a lot of people do (that is just completely unnatural feeling for me and I don't want to overdo it or act arrogant at all).
For those who can (or used to) relate, what have you done that has helped you get past this? I admittedly let stupid things people have said to/about me in my past still rent space in my head and am trying hard to not put stock into that, especially since most of it was completely untrue and came from unreliable sources, but it's quite a battle. I also unfortunately allow every dumb mistake or embarrassing thing I've said/done rent space in my head, though I know I need to accept that I've learned from it and am better now and move on. I also struggle with negative self talk and have for years, though I've started really getting onto myself about that recently. Is there anything you've found if you've struggled with these issues that has helped set you on the right track and away from these intrusive thoughts? I've been trying to "correct" them in my head, like by telling myself that I'm a human being that makes mistakes and that I've learned from them and do better now, so I don't need to beat myself up over them.
Thanks!
26-30, F
