how do you 'get over' a hard past

i won't go into too much detail on this post but in my life i've suffered abuse, bullying, physical attacks where i was seriously hurt in full view of the public....dealing with mental problems as well....and there's times i have flashbacks or upsetting memories which cause me distress....i'm now 47 years old.

how do i come to terms with my past, let go and move on?

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whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

I have a little experience here. So listen up... YOU DONT!.. Everything that has happened to you thusfar has informed who and what you have become and there is no undoing any of it. So forget it..
What you can do is decide what you will do tomorrow with everything you know.. They say the abused abuse..But an abuse vuctim can also know better than anyone how simple validation and support can bring out the shine they never got and decide that was who they were going to be. Decide to do the very opposite of the lessons you learned. You may not always get it right. But sometimes all it takes is not to be wrong,...😷

Wiseacre · F

@whowasthatmaskedman that would not work for most ppl.

whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

@Wiseacre No. I agree. It does take a certain strength to rebel against ones own history.. But it exists and can save a few. 😷