Truth is, my dad used to punch me in my face, laugh at the blood and call me worthless when I cried...

So when I listen to people tell me it's my fault I'm hurting, it resembles that abuse.

I actually feel bad for people that present the crap they read on Pinterest as some universal solution.

There can be a little truth in anything. Like my dad, he didn't think he was doing anything wrong either. He thought he was teaching me something.

Sadly I don't think this is something many people will understand. What they proclaim as healing is just projecting. It's just well worded anger. I know because I do the same thing sometimes.

It's a relief, to blame and deflect, to get a break from the hard work that is sifting through your crap and trying to get better.

So I'm not mad at those of you who victim blame, because you're a victim too. I recognize you as a survivor and a warrior even.

But I think there's a few generations of people that spread toxicity because they have poor coping tools. Because they felt the same abuse I felt and they just want permission to hate everyone that doesn't enable their limits.