Have you ever gotten sick and tired of trying to get your sh*t together?

It seems like no matter how much I try I can't turn things around. I am 31 and started working at 26. I will admit I should've started working early and saved, saved, saved. I have no savings, but I am working on it. Currently living with parents but helping them out financially, I give them between $500-$700 for rent. I am trying to save up enough to get myself a nice cheap little studio and car but whenever I try to save, something always comes up. I am working on a side hustle which is a clothing that looks promising. We are planning to open up a store in march in one of the biggest malls in America. Our site goes up later this month. I'm hoping it goes well so I can get some extra income. I am also working on small projects away from work to try and save money. As of now I have $2,600 to my name. I am trying budget more which is key and staying away from social media. Because when ever I see my friends and other people my age and younger getting married, buying cars, getting their own place etc... it makes me depressed. I know I shouldn't compare myself to others but it shows me what I could've had, if I had taken things seriously at an early age. I know I can do it but it will take a lot of time and patience. I am not lazy or untalented. I have just been bad with saving money and had some bad luck along the way.

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Casheyane · F

You have a different timelinefrom them. You're trying your best. Don't give up. It's basically okay to feel bad, but you owe it to yourself to acknowledge that the only one you need to compete with is the you now. Be better than him, because that's how you'll grow.

We all have our own circumstances. Nobody is 100 happy all the time. I think deep down, you know that the pictures and posts you see in social media aren't as fab as they seem. But still, don't focus on that.

You have your own book to fill with your effort on every page. Make it a story you'd love to share with your future children.

Once, there was a man who felt so lost, like he couldn't do it...and then, this is how he changed the game.

And lastly, it's okay to fail. Just do better next time. Repeat for as long as the race to your definition of finish line is ongoing.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@Casheyane At last, an intelligent 20-something-year-old. Hopefully he will value your words. People listen best to those in their age range.

Casheyane · F

@PoetryNEmotion Thank you :) I hope he gets to like himself along the way. Self care is kinda tough when you feel overwhelmed.

I can only share this because I too have been lost once upon a time :)

PoetryNEmotion · F

@Casheyane I am sure everyone does feel downtrodden at some point or more in their lives. The multitudes with low or no self-esteem is enormous here and continues to climb. People are pretty weak in these times. One needs to recognize one's self-worth. Others cannot fill buckets with holes in them. You're a good soul. Have a good day, hon.

lonelydreamer · 31-35, M

@PoetryNEmotion @Casheyane Thank you, for the feedback and advice. Greatly appreciate it.