Have you ever gotten sick and tired of trying to get your sh*t together?

It seems like no matter how much I try I can't turn things around. I am 31 and started working at 26. I will admit I should've started working early and saved, saved, saved. I have no savings, but I am working on it. Currently living with parents but helping them out financially, I give them between $500-$700 for rent. I am trying to save up enough to get myself a nice cheap little studio and car but whenever I try to save, something always comes up. I am working on a side hustle which is a clothing that looks promising. We are planning to open up a store in march in one of the biggest malls in America. Our site goes up later this month. I'm hoping it goes well so I can get some extra income. I am also working on small projects away from work to try and save money. As of now I have $2,600 to my name. I am trying budget more which is key and staying away from social media. Because when ever I see my friends and other people my age and younger getting married, buying cars, getting their own place etc... it makes me depressed. I know I shouldn't compare myself to others but it shows me what I could've had, if I had taken things seriously at an early age. I know I can do it but it will take a lot of time and patience. I am not lazy or untalented. I have just been bad with saving money and had some bad luck along the way.

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SW-User

Yeah. I’m 20 will be 21 next week and right now I can’t even get to bed at a reasonable time and when I get up I’m all depressed that depressed I can’t hardly wash , it takes me hours just to go upstairs to wash , getting dressed is hard too right now, I’m going through a huge depressive episode. Before then I did have a lot going for me last year I had so much. But I wouldn’t say I had my life together. Far from it. I’m a sex worker which isn’t bad but it’s the only paid job I can get due to my mental illness , I don’t have my own home or anywhere in my name I rent , my dad is abusive and I’m forced to live with him , I hate we’re I live the people there are so disrespectful and mean it’s in a out of way place I have to travel for hours for everything I want and work purposes , I can’t drive yet , I don’t even have friends to hang out with , I’m alone and I haven’t even got an relationship. So yeah I get you. I feel you. Hardly anyone has their life’s together , not many people I know do. Hugs 🤗

lonelydreamer · 31-35, M

@SW-User Wow that was a lot to take in. I'm really sorry to hear about what is going on in your life. I would suggest maybe seeing a therapist for your depression. I know there are places that help women who are being abused by domestic violence. You should find one near you and give them a call. I don't want it to seem like I am judging you, everyone has the right to do what they want. But if possible, have you considered finding work else where. I also have depression as well. But their are jobs out there that you might be able to do. Sex work is a dangerous job, especially during a pandemic. I wish you the very best. I would strongly suggest going to one of these groups for women who are have been abused, you'll find support and have people that will help you.