Is it bad to lose your virginity when you are 13 and turning 14 in a couple of days?
22-25, F
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VsGypsylife
IMHO, I don't think so, but unfortunately even in this equal day and age there is a double standard. So if you already have "done it" don't freak out....just be careful about when and where your are do it again. Its not really all that awesome until you are in your 20s anyway.
No matter what they say,its there, always. I tested the system from the time I was 15 to 30. I did what I want with who I wanted. But I did with the knowledge that f***ng some one or a few came with the possibility of being labeled as a fun party girl, but never or rarely a girlfriend. And I was OK with that at the time. But once you find a guy you want a relationship with, becareful because his friend will tell him if they've hit it. And boys will be your friend, your f'buddy...and you can hang out at their house. But ones that care about you wont ask you for casual sex. I had a guy explain it to me this way....we will be nice for p*** but that doesn't mean we want you to meet our family. Make him work for the right to get the goodies, and don't give BJ's as a consolation prize. If they really like you and truly want to be with you they will understand waiting a month or so.....but at your age I would just be careful anyway....if their momma is still making their bed, you don't want to be sleeping in it.
If you are male its much more simple...its no big deal...and you can brag, even though you were likely a bumbling fool at it. Just make sure you played safe.
If you are female, and no matter what people say...at that age when virginity is still a commodity to give and take" ....peers will likely discuss yours and whether you still have it or not and what kind of girl that makes you. And that is whether you have been with 1 or 200 boys.
The things that are MOST important are.....
1. It is a HORRIBLE idea to not use condoms...do you want the possibility of an STD the rest of your life? How will you explain that to your future loves? If you are old enough and ready for sex, then you are ready to say the word condom and use them appropriately.
2. PREGNANCY - it happens all the time, make sure you take steps to prevent it. At this age you are not even old enough to hold a job, much less and a job, school and a baby. And you want to give your children a good life, not an semi-ok life just because you chose to bring them into the world earlier than you were really ready.
No matter what they say,its there, always. I tested the system from the time I was 15 to 30. I did what I want with who I wanted. But I did with the knowledge that f***ng some one or a few came with the possibility of being labeled as a fun party girl, but never or rarely a girlfriend. And I was OK with that at the time. But once you find a guy you want a relationship with, becareful because his friend will tell him if they've hit it. And boys will be your friend, your f'buddy...and you can hang out at their house. But ones that care about you wont ask you for casual sex. I had a guy explain it to me this way....we will be nice for p*** but that doesn't mean we want you to meet our family. Make him work for the right to get the goodies, and don't give BJ's as a consolation prize. If they really like you and truly want to be with you they will understand waiting a month or so.....but at your age I would just be careful anyway....if their momma is still making their bed, you don't want to be sleeping in it.
If you are male its much more simple...its no big deal...and you can brag, even though you were likely a bumbling fool at it. Just make sure you played safe.
If you are female, and no matter what people say...at that age when virginity is still a commodity to give and take" ....peers will likely discuss yours and whether you still have it or not and what kind of girl that makes you. And that is whether you have been with 1 or 200 boys.
The things that are MOST important are.....
1. It is a HORRIBLE idea to not use condoms...do you want the possibility of an STD the rest of your life? How will you explain that to your future loves? If you are old enough and ready for sex, then you are ready to say the word condom and use them appropriately.
2. PREGNANCY - it happens all the time, make sure you take steps to prevent it. At this age you are not even old enough to hold a job, much less and a job, school and a baby. And you want to give your children a good life, not an semi-ok life just because you chose to bring them into the world earlier than you were really ready.
bijouxbroussard
I believe it is, since you've asked. There are other things to focus on at that age, school, preparing for a future where you can take care of yourself and realise other dreams. The last thing needed is to get stuck with an unplanned pregnancy or an STD and health issues.
ala9ala
You tell us. Was it good?
MsFluffballClaws · 22-25, F
I haven't had it yet -__-
ala9ala
just don't be pressured
sadWaste
it's generally a bad choice
BarbieWould
it's whatever you want to do
lahlahgwen
It's illegal too.
VeritableVagabond
What's done is done.
Loosehandcock
No I lost mine at 14
Kmade
yeah...yeah it is
wetmark
Yes it is Bad
SuzanneMariee
Yes it is.
lolcountry99
no not at all
delilah5
YES.
1sabre
yes