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Why do people send one-word messages to strangers (esp. when they have no interests in common?)

I'm genuinely curious: why do people send one-word messages (generally "hi") to others, especially people they have no interests in common with? Does anyone actually respond to this kind of messages, and if so, what on earth do you say?!?!

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markwallace

well, for me, it's an opening statement. when you first interact with someone, the greeting is usually hi, or hello, and usually the conversation can grow from there.

CrazyTheatreGal · 36-40, F

I agree in real life it's a conversation opener, because the person is right there to respond. But I generally find that on here just saying "hi" means you don't really have anything to talk about - which generally means you haven't read my profile, since it's pretty easy to find SOME mutual interest as an ice breaker to talk about. I think it's rude to message people and expect them to respond and start an actual conversation with you if you haven't even bothered to read their profile. I can't speak for all girls on here, but I think a lot of them feel the same way - we get a lot of random messages and if you don't catch our attention then we're not likely to respond. "Hey, I noticed we are both into (blank) and I'd love to talk about that shared interest!" Or "I really enjoyed your story about (blank) and would love to chat with you more!" shows that you actually took the time to learn about them and are not just sending "hi" messages to anyone who happens to be female and online.

I'd be curious to hear from other females if you feel the same way! And MarkWallace, I think taking some of these suggestions could definitely improve your chances of getting responses. :)

markwallace

I agree with what you're saying. I can not, and will not speak for others here, but I only prefer to chat with someone only if we have a lot in common. I read everyone's profile before I send them a message. why some people just send out random messages is beyond me.

I don't mind if I get responses or not. I look at it this way, if I start a conversation with something simple like "hi" and I don't get a resonse, oh well, I'm over it. If I do get a response, than great!

CrazyTheatreGal · 36-40, F

I'm glad that you don't take it personally if you don't get a response. But if I have found we do have a lot in common I really would like to start a convo with that person, so I personally feel it's worth the extra minute or so it takes to say something about what we have in common because it increases the likelihood they will respond.