Why are (most) men intimidated by attractive women?

Women don't usually get intimidated by an attractive man, they get a crush and it makes them excited no matter their confidence level. For me personally, I'm not overly confident and I've actually be labelled as "shy" my entire life but when I see a hot guy, it makes me smile and I compliment him in my mind lol it kind of makes my day a little nicer. I know that hot guy probably didn't even notice me, he's probably got an equally hot girlfriend and he's out of my league anyway and knowing that, I wouldn't feel intimidated. So saying men are intimidated because she's out of their league or fearing rejection doesn't seem to be all there is to it because it doesn't seem to apply when the roles are reversed in my opinion.

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EuphoricTurtle · 41-45, M

I don't agree with that. I think there are a number of reactions which sometimes get mistaken for being intimidated.

Sure there are men that get intimidated by attractive women (or even just the thought of approaching any women), but I'm not so sure that's the majority.

Some play a safer game where they're looking for less probability of rejection because they don't really know how to deal with rejection. Then it becomes an issue about rejection and not how attractive the woman is.

For me personally I am very hesitant about attractive women (the definition of which is very subjective). I am hesitant because I don't trust myself completely and I'm afraid of being so blinded by the aesthetic side that I'll subconsciously forgive serious character flaws.

SweetFantasy · 26-30, F

@EuphoricTurtle true, men possibly also think "she's attractive so putting myself out there I'm probably already competing with other guys" ...?

EuphoricTurtle · 41-45, M

@SweetFantasy I guess to some there is also that competitive side, it has nothing to do with being rejected by her but instead "losing" to another guy. Like I said, there are a lot of possible reasons and some may get misinterpreted as being intimidated.